(Closed) having a baby at 40?

posted 11 years ago in 40 Something
Post # 46
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

I am 42 and am getting married for the first time next month. My fiance has felt strongly that he wants to be married first before we ty. Because of my age we will likely try right away. I worry about not being able to conceive because of my age but one never knows until they try. If we are meant to be parents then we will be. 

Post # 47
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

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Post # 48
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

I’m 42 and we are TTC our first (and only) so I dont think it is too old at all. There are advantages (and disadvantages) to being older parents. 

Post # 49
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Newbee

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shelbifox15:  I had my second child at 41:) Got pregnant the first time trying, healthy pregnancy and healthy baby! It took my and my ex husband 14 months to conceive our first daughter at 31

the marriage didn’t last, unfortunately, but with my current fiancé , we accidentally got pregnant when I was 43…so it can definitely happen!

 

Post # 50
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Sugar bee

I have a 6 and 7 year old and I am currently 38. I could not imagine starting over at 40.I want my kids to be out of the house by the time I am 50 and there is still enough life in me to get some ‘swagger’ back.lol Plus, pregnancy is so hard on the body usually and I just prefer not to deal with this when I am older.

However, if that’s not an issue for you, then go for it as long as you are able because yes, most people tend to be more stable at 40 so there’s that.

Post # 51
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Blushing bee

We started trying when I was still 37. I am now months away from 40 and we are in the middle of our second egg retrieval for IVF. There is absolutley nothing wrong with my DH and I medically. We have unexplained infertilty which is more than likely age related. At my age, over 50% of my eggs are abnormal and with every year that number goes up. If you are at all considering having a baby I recommned getting on the horse or banking your eggs(if you bank your eggs now you can have a baby even after menopause…true story). It’s an unfortunate truth. I was in such denial when we started. Even my OBGYN was recommending we just go for IVF and not walk but run. And I wasted a lot of time thinking this would not happen to me. And then the night before my 39th birthday and over a year of trying I broke down and realized this is happening to me. But yes, plenty of women succeed into their 40’s, you just can’t count on it because the odds are not in our favor. 

Post # 52
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

I’m 42 and have 2 daughters.  If someone asked me if I wanted more kids, my response would be “Absolutely not!”  But recently I’ve been thinking about it and the only answer I can honestly give is “Well, I dunno.”  I honestly think I’m too old, but if Fiance wants to talk about it, I can sit still at least long enough to listen….

Post # 53
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Sugar bee

Women have babies in their 40s all the time.  Personally, I would never want to because I have two kids and I cant imagine going through the baby stage at 40 years old (and I will be 40 in a little over 2 years). My body took a BEATING with pregnancy (and I think I had it easiest than most). I didnt change much aesthetically but it’s so much…work.  However, I am well aware that people are different and it is done all the time.

Post # 54
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

I think it is very different for woman who are in their 40’s and already have children. I will be 43 in May and DH and I are trying for our one and only. I worry that I am too old to get pregnant or to chase around a toddler but I also get sad at the thoughts of never experiencing pregnancy or motherhood. DH isnt big into fertility but if push comes to shove I wonder if he would do it? We haven’t gone there much yet because we are still hoping it will happen naturally for us. I had a polyp removed in January that could’ve been preventing pregnancy and he had surgery last Fall so we had to skip a month then too. I suppose time will tell. 

Post # 55
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

I will be 43 next weekend and DH and I have been trying to get pregnant since we got married last June. We were casual abotu it at first but have moved to more aggressive things then temping and using a fertility monitor. I got checked out and things are fine with me. He tried to get his SA done but didnt give enough of a sample so needs to do it again. I worry about my lack of energy being older parents but there are definite advantages too. Good luck with whatever you decide and what works for one person may (or may not) work for another. 

Post # 56
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Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2017

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Post # 57
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

We have been trying for over a year without success so are moving to IVF. I suggest starting to try now if it is something you want. i also suggest getting help if you aren’t successful after 6 months of trying. I always thought we would be able to conceive naturally but here we are. 

Post # 58
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Blushing bee

I would not wait, it is so much harder to conceive in your 40’s and for many it is unlikely.

I have 3 children all born in my 20’s I got pregnant on the first cycle each time. Now at 46 I have been TTC for almost a year and a half (new partner who is childless) with not a single positive. I guess my time has run out even though my periods etc are still regular as ever.

If you are certain you want a child it would be wise to not wait long.

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