(Closed) Having a bad waiting time

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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3798 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

What are the reasons that he is not proposing? Money? Is he scared of commitment? After three years, if he knows that he wants to propose, he should be putting together necessary steps, no matter how small, to do so. If you don’t believe in living together before marriage and he sees that as a step towards marriage, maybe you can come up with a compromise? Sounds like you need to sit him down and talk to him about what the future holds instead of notes…I know it is hard and you say you keep crying, but crying or not, you need to talk face to face.

Post # 6
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87 posts
Worker bee

prshadow You’ve come to the right place, then.  That’s what brought me to the bee.  All of my friends are sick of hearing about my waiting blues.  Some, not all of them, would rather that I just ditch him and move on.  I wrote in my post a few minutes ago that men have no concept of how rejected it makes a woman feel that they aren’t chomping at the bit to make them his wife.  My two cents is to think about how much you’re willing to sacrifice for him.  You have to love yourself enough to do what needs to be done so that you get everything that you deserve.  Also, my SO’s parents are going through a weird divorce as well.  It’s not fair to you for him not to consider your feelings about everything.  Why don’t they understand that we are already sacrificing by trying to accommodate their need to wait? Aye aye aye.  I’m sorry hun…

Post # 8
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253 posts
Helper bee

it seems that when guys come from a broken home they are just scared of taking the next step.

Post # 10
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3798 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@bridalblush: truth. They are afraid to take the chance.

 @prshadow: My Fiance comes from a broken home, and all the couples in his family except for one are divoriced. He knew it was taking a risk for us to start wedding planning, and we hope that we do not someday get divoriced, but we are willing to take the chance because we want to have a family together.

Perhaps you could do pre marital counseling together or see someone to talk about marriage and his fears? Someday he will realize that not all relationships are going to be like the ones that he has seen.

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