(Closed) Having a bit of a problem with my photographer and looking for advice

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
443 posts
Helper bee

I would be very uncomfortable having her take my wedding photos in this situation, I would want to either confront her politely about the issue and request that she conduct herself more professionally at my wedding (though I’m not sure whether it is appropriate to do this) or I would hire another photographer.

Post # 3
584 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I would laugh. And move on. He’s marrying you. I think you’re just imagining the worst and it’s highly unlikely to happen. She’s going to see you guys one more time for the wedding, that’s it. Honestly, based on what you said happened at the engagement shoot it’s a pretty far assumption that something crazy will happen at your wedding. 

Post # 4
906 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2014 - 11/15/14-Vineyard

I’m not a jealous person at all but that would irk me being its very unprofessional. 

If she is just a photographer and not the owner of the company, I would contact the owner directly. Explain the situation and tht others saw it and commented and that you would like another photographer or you will seek another company. Dealing with the I owner directly will most likely resolve it as long as it is not her. 

Post # 5
1801 posts
Buzzing bee

If I complained about her, I would want to make sure that she was not the photographer who showed up on the day of the wedding.  If she’s unprofessional enough to flirt, maybe she’s unprofessional enough to retaliate and not do her best work for you.    Are there other photographers in the business (at about the same price point) whose style you also like?

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Post # 6
1411 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Have you gotten the pictures back yet? If not, try to reserve judgment. If so, did you like them? If yes, be logical, nothing is going to happen between your fiance and photographer, and some women are just horrible at realizing when they’re flirting in general, even at times to the point that it might make others. Take it as a compliment and move on. If not, look into getting out of your contract and hiring a different photographer! This is why engagement shoots exist.

Post # 8
1378 posts
Bumble bee

I would not feel comfortable at all if my photographer was being that unprofessional and flirting with my FI.  Unless you are an absolute devotee of her portfolio and her photography style, I would start looking for another photographer.  There are so many wonderful photographers out there that I would not waste my time and cause myself undue stress of using someone who cannot keep her hands to herself.  The other thing is, the actual wedding day is going to be very stressful so the last thing you’d need is to be stressed out that your photographer is all over your future DH.  Even the possibility would make me upset, so to mitigate such unnecessary stress I would go with a different photographer without a moment’s hesitation.

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