Having a boy for our firstborn

posted 1 year ago in Pregnancy
Post # 46
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5707 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: July 2018

carolinabelle :  you don’t have to teach him to wash under his foreskin… you clean it like a finger. Don’t pull back the skin

Awful advice. 

Post # 47
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1678 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

slomotion :  This is one of my all time favourite responses, in fact I might steal this and use it when friends are getting all hung up on wallpaper and clothing colours and other superficial stuff.  

TheGridMonster :  Oh my god your LO is just gorgeous.  Those eyes!

Post # 48
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1147 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2019 - Tacoma, WA

My firstborn was a boy, and I thought through the entire pregnancy it would be a girl. I wouldn’t even discuss boy options, I was that set on it. This was back before gender ultrasounds were the norm, so I never found out the sex until he was born. This is how it went down:

Doctor: “Congratulations on your healthy baby BOY!”

Me: “OMG it’s a boy?? A BOY? *lays back on the table all dramatically*

I was disappointed, for sure, but only for a split second. When they placed him in my arms, I was instantly in love and that hasn’t changed an ounce over the past 25 years I’ve been his mom.

All of that is to say, you will love that little boy like nobody else in the world and you will be a wonderful mom to your son. And who knows? Maybe he’ll grow up liking pink, sparkly things too. You never know. 😉

Post # 49
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9218 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

youngbrokebride :  thank you so much! only half an hour until I get to pick him up from daycare and I can’t wait 🤗

Post # 50
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652 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

megm1099 :  You said – “I also feel it important to mention that you are not supposed to be your child’s BFF. That is not, and never will be, your job. You are their parent” 

This is the best and most important comment here!!  It is also the biggest issue with kids/parents today I believe – too much BFF’ing and not enough parenting.

Post # 51
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584 posts
Busy bee

Boys are great. Besides if your going to have more children, wouldn’t it be fantastic if your second child was a daughter and she had a big brother? I love my boys and my daughter. The same.  Not one more than the other. You will get over it, the minute he/she is born. Believe me. 

Post # 52
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Blushing bee

Your children will have their own personalities regardless of their sex. 

I am one of three girls and we are all sooooo different. Just because we are girls doesn’t mean we like pink and glitter. 

My older sister does like pink and glitter, she was the bossy older sister. Perfectionist. Did all her homework on time. Studied hard. Is married and had the princess wedding. Got 2 daughters, the first is sooo much like her and the second one reminds me of my younger sister…

My younger sister couldn’t be anymore different…we didn’t see her in a dress until she was about 18. Loves football. Plays about 3 times a week. Very sporty and regularly runs marathons. Very messy and disorganised. Never did her homework, she would be found on her bike or climbing a tree as a child…not studying. Loves music and plays the drums and guitar. Came out as a gay about 6 years ago and is now living with her lovely girlfriend.

Then there is me….Middle child. Not sporty. Used to try and get out of physical education classes all the time. Love languages and now live abroad where I can use my languages. 

3 very different people who were all born as girls. 

Post # 53
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3114 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2016 - Surfer\'s Beach, Grand Cayman

zzar45 :  It’s correct though. You NEVER forecefully retract foreskin. Once it retracts on it’s own, then you teach them to wash under their foreskin. 

Post # 54
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

TheGridMonster :  I have noticed cats=girls and dogs=boys.  My son loves cats (and dogs!) but it’s hard to find cat things for him.  I found some neutral (gray) cat pajamas for him though!  So he has those and we have the pink one too for my girl haha.

Post # 55
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9815 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

sunflower188 :  Disappointment on the sex of your baby is very normal.  I did want a girl with my first and luckily I had a girl but with my second I sort of wanted another girl just because I “knew” what to expect.  I had a boy and only had a very passing disappointment when I found out.  You will do fine!  I love having my son.  You can’t predict personality and preferences.  Just because you have a girl does not guarantee they will like sparkly, pink, girly things.  Having a boy does not mean he is going to be interested in football, dirt, etc.  Babies and toddlers love whatever is in front of them.  My son loves to play with his sisters toys!!  Dolls, dollhouses, and other stuff in addition to their dinosuars and cars.

Post # 56
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5707 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: July 2018

peegee :  It isn’t correct at all, the previous poster wasn’t saying not to pull it back forcefully, she said at all and that it just not true.  The foreskin needs to be pulled back, gently obviously and washed underneath.  You do not wash it ‘like a finger’, if you don’t pull the foreskin back the child will have a build up of bacteria and it will be sore and uncomfortable for him. 

Post # 57
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

No no no no NEVER pull back a baby’s foreskin!!!! It is attached to the top of the penis and they don’t separate until much older. If you pull it back you WILL damage the penis and cause infection. It will also HURT the poor boy. zzar45 :  

Post # 59
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

sunflower188 :  your husband is a ”soft and gentle” man, so why don’t you think it’s possible for his SON to take after him? You’ll be fine. 

And if you find that your son doesn’t ‘fit’ into your family, there are so many couples that would love to adopt and have your son as their own. 

Post # 60
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Busy bee

I am also a fairly girly girl, my firstborn is a boy and then I  had a girl after. I was happy to have a boy first because I always wanted a big brother growing up, I thought it was special to have a boy (we didn’t have any in my family for a few generations on one side).

But no matter the sex each child has their own personality. My son is actually very sensitive and shy whereas my girl is more outgoing. They like pretty much the same things though and do almost everything together. My daughter is definitely not a girly girl, from a young age she was into jeans and “leather jackets”  and boots (rock chic look) rather than pretty dresses that I excitedly wanted to buy for her. 

So despite the sex of your child, they will have their own unique characteristics and you will find a connection with them regardless 😊

 

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