(Closed) Having a Bride Assistant to wrangle in Bridesmaids?

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 136
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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MrsHistory-Bee:  If you “get it” I suggest you ask the mods to close this post and start a new thread for any unresolved issues. You are going to keep getting the same responses over and over again.

Post # 137
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

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MrsHistory-Bee:  I’m not apologizing for my posts… I stand by them 100%… The way you had wanted to treat your friends was deplorable and did not deserve a sing song kind reply… That is why you recieved so many harsh ones from so many people…. 

I am glad you have now seen the light and have realized what an awful idea it was! 

Post # 139
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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MrsHistory-Bee:  Post a request in the Support Board- top of the page on the left side. Copy the URL of this thread and ask them to close it. We used to be able to do this oursleves but it’s just another one of the “bugs” since the new format was rolled out.

Post # 140
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

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Josheen:  I’m wondering if your bridesmaids aren’t responding to your email because they don’t like the dress and/or price.  When I was a bridesmaid before, I just lied.  The bride loved a really ugly, princessy, pink, sequined, ruched, mermaid, and never ever able to be worn again dress that cost hundreds of dollars.  She loved it and it was clear she wanted me to say I loved it, so I lied.  But after being in a few weddings, I don’t feel like lying anymore- if something isn’t cute, won’t be cute on me, and/or costs hundreds of dollars, I just stay quiet and say nothing (and hope the bride will change her mind).  

I’m not saying at all that you have to do mismatched dresses or change your dress contenders.  But maybe just know they probably don’t like the dress and/or price options and that they might not like any you’re considering, so maybe just pick and let it be.  If you really like those dresses and want them to wear them, then just pick.  

For a recent wedding where I was Maid/Matron of Honor, we realized too late that every single dress in the styles/colors/fabrics she liked made everyone look huge and cost $250, oh well.  that’s what we got.  she had the look she wanted on her wedding day and we all have another expensive, ugly dress in our closets, it’s fine.  she tried her best to give us a choice, it didn’t work, but it’s fine.  your bridesmaids will get over it.

Post # 141
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

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MrsHistory-Bee:  What are you asking of them that they have not done?  It sounds like you have sent out a few emails etc, but did you actually ask them to do something and they have not complied?  Also, if your wedding is a ways away and they have already told you that they are throwing you a shower, what are you stressing about?  They still have time, and they may not plan as far in advance as you do.  That doesn’t mean it won’t be a great shower!  If I were the “liason” I would be insulted.  I think its an awful idea.  It sounds like you are really trying to control every situation, and sometimes in life not everything is in your control.  I think you need to let go a little.  Recognize that you can’t control your bridesmaids and what they do or so not do for your wedding.

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