(Closed) Having a bridesmaid from out of town?

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I had 3 bridesmaids from out of town,  much farther away than 4 hours.   There was no problem for me.  They all made it to the wedding with no issues. 

Post # 3
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Bumble bee

That shouldn’t be a burden to her, but you can check with her when you ask. Keep in mind the only responsibility of a bridesmaid is to stand up with you the day of the wedding.

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Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Two of my four bridesmaids were out of town. One is a 6 hour drive away and one is a flight away. They were both sorority sisters of mine from college and are some of my closest friends. Honestly, the one that lives a plane ride away was more helpful than the two that live in the same town as me. Though only because she was also planning her wedding and so we talked shop a whole lot. The two out of towners couldn’t make it to the bridal shower or anything, but they were there for the bachelorette and everything leading up to the wedding. It wasn’t a problem for me at all.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: City, State

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alexa62:  My maid of honor lives 4 hours away from me. We talk almost daily and it really wasn’t that hard. She chose to be involved as much as she could. She co-hosted my bridal shower with my mom (only because she wanted to throw it but needed help from my mom as she does live 4 hours away). We talked about everything on the phone and through facebook about the wedding so she was always in the loop. The place where I got all the bridesmaid dresses had a location about 30 minutes from her house so she just ordered hers with everyone elses dress than they sent her dress to the other location so she could do alterations easier up that way. I pretty much did everything by myself and when my bridesmaids offered to do something, I let them do whatever they wanted to do that needed to be done. I didn’t expect anything from my bridesmaids knowing they were already doing alot just by standing in the wedding. 

Post # 6
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

4/6 of my bridesmaids are out of town. They’re not responsible for any wedding planning *at all* so it’s no big deal. 

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015 - St Peter\'s Church, East Maitland, and Bella Vista, Newcastle

Both my bridesmaids live a three hour plane trip away from me.  I don’t expect them to do anything except stand up next to me on the day, so it’s been fine.  I got their dresses online (ordered with custom measurements) and took them with me when I went back home for a cousin’s wedding a month ago and both fitted perfectly.  Can’t imagine having anyone except the two of them standing up with me.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

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alexa62:  All of my bridesmaids are out of town, I have one close to where I live 🙂 I would never have chosen other people, just because of what they can do to help me.  I am doing the majority of everything myself, but to have the people I want standing up there with me is more important.  Plus, I always think that Bridesmaids only official duty is to be there, and if they want to help beforehand they can.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

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alexa62:  All 5 of my bridesmaids are “out of town”.  Hell, my whole wedding is “out of town”.  I’m live in central PA, but I’m getting married 2 hours away, near philly.  I have bridemaids in all of the following states: Maryland, North Dakota, Chicago, and 2 in Mississippi.  It’s been fine though.  Maryland bridesmaid went dress shopping with me.  North Dakota Bridesmaid went to a bridal show with me when she was in town.  Chicago bridesmaid went to a bridal show with me, cake tasting, and bridesmaid dress shopping when she was in town.  Mississippi bridesmaids are both coming in town a few days before the wedding festivities to help with last minute projects.  Of course I would have preferred it if all my girls were local, but we’re making it work.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

One of my bridesmaids flew all the way from the US to the UK for our wedding! It helped that I could have her dress delivered to her in the US at no extra cost. No problems at all, it was wonderful to have her be a part of our day 🙂

Post # 11
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Bumble bee

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alexa62:  all of my 3 bridesmaids were out of town….they really couldn’t help with much, one was able to come for dress shopping and help me one day with DIY stuff….all the showers and parties were planned within 4 days apart of the wedding and rehearsal so they wouldn’t have to travel 3 or 4 times….I know they didn’t help much, but they couldn’t because of location. I could have picked local bridesmaid but I wanted people atandinh with me because we are bestfriends, not because of how much stuff try could do…

 

my my best friend is getting married next weekend, I had to miss her bridal shower and I disnt get to go dress shopping with her, but that’s ikay, we would text and call away

Post # 12
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Honey bee

2 of my 3 bridesmaids are out of town. I’m from ohio but I live in Maryland. I’m going with David’s Bridal for bridesmaids dresses, so it will be easy for everyone to find/order the same dress. 

Post # 13
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Helper bee

I’m the one thats out of town in my case- I just moved to Montana from Maine so all my maids are on the East Coast. It is even harder because even if I do fly back, I still have a maid that has to drive 6 hours and another that has to fly from Florida. My maids are involved- but maybe not in the traditional sense. My NY maid is great with graphic design so she has created some great templates for invites and save the dates for me. I also visited her last year and we did some dress shopping. My FL maid is already married and we are using a lot of the same vendors she used so she is always there for me to bounce questions off of. One of my Maine maids is getting married the same year so we are planning step-in-step with each other, and my other Maine maid (of honor) will be the lucky one that I ship all my wedding stuff to and have her store it for me and she will help me put together the DIY’s when I come home this year. As far as pre-wedding events, we will probably do the bachelorrette party the week before the wedding, and just have it an all-week girl time leading up the wedding since I am renting a cabin for the entire week of the wedding. 

Post # 14
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Buzzing Beekeeper

I’m in Vegas, the Maid/Matron of Honor is busy working on a second grad degree in DC, the Bridesmaid or Best Man is my Future Sister-In-Law in Philly. She works and has kids to take care of. I expect them to give honest opinions of my dress via skype, them to find dresses they like (that I intend to pay for) and to join us for the rehearsal and wedding. I don’t want a shower and my bachelorette will be super low key, kid friendly for the Future Sister-In-Law and immediate female family.

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

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alexa62:  I had one who lived across the country. All she participated in was the rehearsal dinner and wedding. 

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