Having a brunch reception and getting worried!

posted 6 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

I’d spring for a real dancefloor and a DJ, personally.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

What about some lawn games? Like bocce, horse shoes, or corn hole? If there will be kids, maybe have some frisbees or some other kid games for them to play? 

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

You definitely need some form of entertainment, but it doesn’t have to be dancing! You could set out lawn games (like croquet), or something like that! 

Post # 6
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I have been to two brunch receptions and neither of them had dancing. People love to socialize with people they don’t see all of the time.

If you want to have games like croquet and bocce, they would be perfect for a brunch wedding.

I am quite sure that after the wedding, the same people who are raising concerns now will be telling you that yours was one of the nicest weddings they have attended.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

You seem to be getting such an unfair end of the deal, I’m sorry you’re going through this. If they want dinner and a dance floor, they should invite less people so you can afford those things. Id invest in a DJ not a separate dance floor. The DJ can really set the tone of the party/keep it fun  and if people feel like dancing, the DJ can switch up the music to accommodate.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

We had an 11am ceremony, followed immediately by an outdoor lunch reception. No DJ/dance floor (we had an iPod with separate playlists for cocktails, lunch, and “dancing”), no hard liquor (just wine and beer), and no other entertainment set up except for some bubbles for the kids and an ice cream cart.

Everybody had a wonderful time, stayed the whole time (enjoyed chatting after lunch, waiting for ice cream etc), and the kids got to run around and climb trees and blow bubbles. Particularly with your shorter time span, I think it’ll be fine!

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Sorry, I’m on the “YOU DON’T NEED ENTERTAINMENT, IT IS A WEDDING” side of the fence.

We had a wedding ceremony, 1 hour cocktail period, and 2-3 hours of dinner.  And then people left.  It was perfect, everyone enjoyed themselves, and no one danced.  Actually, there was a little bit of dancing at the end, but we didn’t plan for it.  

People are coming to celebrate your marriage, not be entertained.  Feeding them and providing a beautiful ceremony will be perfect.  

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

just tell those people you are going with a traditional english wedding – good enough for will and kate good enough for me!

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@sarahcool:  +1. 

Feeding your guests is good since they’re traveling to see you and will get hungry, but most of them will be adults. They do not need constant entertainment. They can live without dancing. And if they want to leave after they’ve eaten..that’s OK! You shouldn’t feel bad about it! 

I believe weddings are about the ceremony. Anything else is just extra frosting on the cake. 🙂 So do what feels right to you and your fiance. For what it’s worth, I personally think a brunch wedding with no dancing sounds lovely and I’d probably stay longer than at dancing weddings (I hate dancing). 

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

We had a brunch wedding, and we did have dancing. Honestly, I think you could do without it. It isn’t like you are having the typical night time wedding where dancing would be expected- brunch weddings have an entirely different feel and sometimes dancing during the day can feel very awkward. At my wedding, only a handful of people danced (all of our young friends) and it didn’t last very long. If you would like to provide activities, the bocce or croquet that other posters suggested would be fun! But I’m sure everyone would have a lovely time just socializing 🙂

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

First, it sounds like your wedding is going to be beautiful!  Ignore all the naysayers.  They are just having a hard time thinking outside the box.  It’s unusual to brunch wedding, and that’s good.  The most memorable weddings (memorable in a good way) are those that are a bit different. 

I don’t think you need dancing.  Who wants to dance in broad daylight?  Certainly not me, unless I’ve had more to drink than is acceptable at a fancy party.  I also don’t think you need any other form of entertainment.  It’s a party for (mostly) adults.  There will be food and drink and good conversation — just like at almost any other party.  At every wedding I’ve ever been to, I’m always so excited to see people I haven’t seen in a while, I couldn’t care less about entertainment.

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I absolutely love the idea of a brunch reception! I really wanted to do this. I would definitely add some sort of entertainment though. If there’s no dancing, you can always set up lawn games, or a game table with scrabble, and other board games. That would go perfectly with your garden-themed wedding in my opinion. Hope everything turns out okay! 

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I was going to suggest lawn games, but I’ve been beaten to it!  FWIW, I think your plan sounds beautiful, and the tiled area is totally OK as a dance floor.

Post # 16
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I think your idea sounds really amazing! I love it! At the end of the day, it’s your and your fiance’s wedding, and you would hope that his family could just be happy for you two.

I think the ideas others suggested of doing games as entertainment sounds really good. And if they’re not happy, tough. Maybe they will never be happy. As long as your happy, that’s all that matters!

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