Post # 1
Just gotta vent here since I can’t tell anyone in real life: I found out last week that I am about 6 weeks pregnant. It was a planned and wanted pregnancy, so we are very excited and happy, but still a little bit in shock. It’s my first pregnancy. Because we are still in shock and scared of miscarriage, we are not telling anyone until week 12, or at least until the first ultrasound when we can hear a heartbeat. My husband and I are both in agreement about that, but it still sucks. I was at a wedding this weekend with my best girlfriends and couldn’t tell them. One of them is pregnant too (23 weeks) so it was killing me not to share with her. It’sd also killing me not to tell my best friend (she’s eloping in 2 weeks and I don’t want to take the focus off of that) and my mom (I don’t want to burden her w/ keeping it a secret from the rest of the family). I suck at keeping secrets.
I don’t feel “pregnant,” really (I don’t even know what that would feel like), but I feel sick. I think I have a cold – bad congestion and fatigue, lightheadedness, and hot flashes. Maybe it’s not even a cold; possibly it’s just the pregnancy. I don’t know. But I feel like crap. I have a super busy stressful week at work but all I want to do is go home and try to rest. I say “try” to rest because I can’t sleep because the congestion is so uncomfortable. Also I’m just distracted and stressed out about the pregnancy. I have no reason to believe things won’t go well but I am prone to anxiety so this is prime fodder for panicking.
I know I shouldn’t complain because I am so lucky to have gotten pregnant, I have a loving and supporting husband, I have wonderful family and friends who will support me, etc. And like, having a cold is, in reality, no big deal.
But still, having a cold while pregnant sucks. It just feels extra annoying and a little bit scary. I guess everything put together is making me feel overwhelmed.
I swear I’m very thankful for this pregnancy, but I don’t have to love every second, right?
Post # 2
You definitely don’t have to love every second! Who loves nausea? Um, no one. The first trimester sucked for me as well. I was so, so exhausted and quesy. Lot of gagging and dry heaving and feeling all around sick and off. I basically felt hungover for 2 months. It gets better! I also had trouble sleeping and a Unisom helped a lot. It is 100% safe during pregnancy (you can always ask your doctor about it, though). It also helps with nausea, as does a B vitamin. It will get better! We also kept it a secret until the second trimester but I chose to tell my mom. Having just one
person to talk to about it (other than your husband) makes a huge difference. I knew I’d tell her right away if I miscarried so it felt ok to me to tell her. Just something to consider. Best of luck and congratulations!
Post # 3
Nope, you don’t have to love every minute of pregnancy, I sure as heck didn’t! We planned on the pregnancy and it happened after the first try then I got very sick with a stomach issue and felt awful and missed weeks of work and nobody could figure out what was wrong with me and I was terrified for the health of the baby (I was less than 6 weeks at this point). Finally my stomach issue went away (thank you probiotics!) and I started feeling better but pregnancy is HARD. Sleep when you can, the exhausted feeling is totally normal during your first trimester (and 3rd too). For the congestion try using a humidifer and some vicks under your nose. I bought a Pediacare vaporizer to help with congestion (and used it after the birth when my son had a cold) http://www.walgreens.com/store/c/pediacare-gentle-vapors-mini-waterless-vaporizer-plug-in-unit–nightlight/ID=prod6085094-product
Your feelings are normal. Best of luck and I hope you get some rest! If your cold/flu gets worse contact your OB and see what they recommend. Some things are safe to take during pregnancy.
Post # 4
I second unisom, I took it during pregnancy, especially the 3rd trimester and it is safe.
Post # 5
Congratulations!! You’re allowed to be miserable in your first trimester (and second and third).
It could be either pregnancy symptoms or a cold. Not that it helps much either way!!
I was very congested in the first trimester and I was so lightheaded I felt like I was in a constant haze. I wanted to sleep all the time. And I mean *all* the time. It was a miracle I was able to get anything done.
I still have days where I can’t breathe properly in bed and need to sit up to get my nose to clear. I want to tell you that the anxiety will ease up as you get further along, but I’m still terrified of losing our baby. It’s easier said than done, but you have to accept that it’s all out of your control. No matter what happens, you will be okay and you have a loving partner to support you.
Post # 6
Congratulations and welcome! The first trimester is such a difficult time, you’re the sickest and most tired and you can’t vent to anyone! Having said that, you’re already halfway there so you’re doing great 🙂
I had a bad cold the week I found out I was pregnant and my doctor told me that was very common in the first trimester. I took some saline nasal spray and paracetamol when I really needed it (and lots of honey/lemon tea). It will get better.
Anyway, is there a FB group or board for your due-month? I’ve found ours to be a great support, especially in terms of symptom-sharing and comparing. Although husbands can be great support, it’s so great to speak to other women who know what you’re going through.
Hope you feel better soon!
Post # 7
Thanks ladies. This helps a lot.
My husband and I decided to tell our parents last night and that also helped. I needed my mom.
The cold is still running its course. Still sucks, but I’m not as miserable as I was yesterday.
I think I will feel a lot better when I get my first scan and this whole thing feels more real.
Post # 8
You absolutely don’t have to like every second (or even most of them!)
And a cold in pregnancy sucks! No matter how far along you are. I’m 37 weeks with a sinus infection and I’m about to lose my mind.
Post # 9
Congratulations!! I had a cold too around 6 wks as well. Your immune system is supressed so that it does not attack your new baby so it’s normal to get a cold right away. Yes, there are a lot of not so fun things in the first trimester but will be so worth it when you hold your baby in your arms.
Post # 10
Congrats on your BFP!!! You definitely don’t have to love every second, that’s impossible! You can be thankful every single second (that’s what I say when I’m like omg i hate feeling this…but I’m so thankful to be pregnant)
I feel you on the cold…Weeks 4-6 I had a parasite I picked up on a trip DH and I went on, followed by bronchitis weeks 4-7! It was definitely NOT fun! lol but you will get through it..your immune system is just low so that your system doesn’t see the baby as a foreign body it has to fight off.
FX for a H&H 9 months for you 🙂