Post # 1
So… my boyfriend has been encouraging me to go to Bridal Shows and Expos lately. He’s had the ring and my parent’s permission for two months now, so I figure he is getting ready to propose. So I make plans to go to an Expo today and an Expo next weekend. On my way to the Expo today, I called my mom to chat and catch up. When I told her what I was doing today she became very snarky. Her exact words were “I wouldn’t expect a ring anytime soon without it being set and sized” (she offered her stone from the 2nd ring my Dad bought her, so she will know when it is ready to be on my finger). She also told me that he “better hurry up before (my) dad changes his mind”. She told me that because he took a semester off from school (so he could focus on his new full time job) that she isn’t sure he will ever finish and how will he take care of me. HELLO?! TAKE CARE OF ME?! The last time I checked, we weren’t living in 1915… I am completely capable of taking care of myself.
My mother is so materialistic! And this conversation REALLY put a damper on my first expo experience. How do I tell my mom to shut her effing mouth without coming off as disrespectful? Should I have my beau talk to her to clear the air? I just feel like she is really turning against this whole ordeal…
Post # 3
She might just be feeling as antsy as you might be about when he’ll actually propose – maybe she’s trying to protect your feelings and doesn’t want you to get too excited if he’s moving more slowly than she was expecting?
Post # 4
I wouldn’t worry about it. I just think that she doesn’t want you getting too excited and might want you to wait until you get the actual ring. Who knows, maybe she wanted to go to the expo with you? I get excited about wedding stuff sometimes too and I know my bf has the ring, but my mom likes to rain on my parade at times and say me “when you get a ring then we’ll talk about it.” I do agree with her….I don’t want to get too excited cause I have no idea when it will happen….who knows it can be in a month or in 6. I guess we just need to be patient. I hate waiting!
Post # 5
I think my mom would be upset if I went to something like that without her, so maybe she’s feeling a little left out? Especially if they are helping pay, then she most likely just wants to be involved.
And I have had to handle the questions about the boy’s career, education and general future, and all I can tell them is that we are comfortable financially and that we love each other… everything else seems to fall into place.
Good luck with your mom, hope this can be a good bonding time between you for the planning process.
Post # 6
i do believe your mom is being the rain right now but i also believe that she has a point.he does need to be capable of taking care of u.dont get me wrong am not the type who think a man should do everything but i always think worse case senario.god forbids somthing happens to u and u are no longer able to provide for ur self.having a husband that can still hold things down is always good.also before u bit my head off.lol many ppl havnt gone to or finished college and ended up pretty fine.ur mom is just being a mom.