(Closed) Having a Destination Wedding in Jamaica….Guest Passes

posted 7 years ago in Destination Weddings
Post # 3
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2012

We are in the same boat.  We are getting married at Sunset Beach in Montego Bay.  My Fiance’s parents want to stay at Sandals because they are preferred members.  Everyone else is staying at the hotel with us. We did offer to pay the day fee but they told us that would pay since THEY were the ones who were changing plans.  I think anybody outside of the wedding party would be out of luck if I had to pay. 

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2012

@kristiew417: I dont know what the etiquette gods would say, but I really think it depends.  Obviously, on the amount of people, a small number won’t be too bad.  But also the reason they’re staying elsewhere.  Like PP said, FI’s parents had a preference so they are paying, but if there isn’t really any huge reason other than a significant price drop I wouldn’t offer to foot the bill for the pass, at the same time I have no idea how much they run, I’m speaking hypothetically.

Post # 5
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@MASPA: They run about $75 pp for the entire day. 

Post # 6
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Busy Beekeeper

i almost had this issue. i had my wedding in Jamaica and guest passes were $75 for guests not staying at the resort (which resort are you getting married at btw?).  In the end, the one couple that considered staying elsewhere ended up staying at our resort, but before that happened, i had decided i would pay them.  But I was stressed about as it would have been $150! So i understand how expensive it can get if you have multiple guests doing this.

I would examine other potential options.  Like negotiating with the resort.  They want you to be happy and you are spending money on your wedding at the resort so they may be willing to accommodate you.   honestly, if it is a small number of guests that need passes and you have a relatively large group already at the resort, i may go the route of not even mentioning it to the resort and maybe they won’t notice!

Post # 8
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Busy Beekeeper

@kristiew417:  i guess i feel different because you chose one of the most expensive resorts. I wanted a Destination Wedding too but i went into knowing it was a partly selfish decision. but i was conflicted because i also wanted people to come. so my mission was to make it as cheap as possible for my guests. we therefore chose to get married at a budget friendly resort to accommodate our guests (sunset Beach Resort, actually right next door to Secrets!) and then we splurged on our honeymoon at a couples resort in Negril. So basically if our guests stayed elsewhere, they would be staying in something super crappy that i would not have felt okay about asking them to stay there (like a 2 star) OR something fancier/more expensive. but even then, i didn’t feel right about charging them guest pass fees.  i was lucky it worked out – but if need be, i would have have given up one of the “extras” in my wedding to cover the guest pass fees. i could have given up for example, the extra hour of the bonfire, the extra tier of cake, something like that to pay for it. or went over budget, but that wasn’t really an option for us as we were altready maxed out on how far over budget we could go.

 

ETA: i basically think that guests can expect the couple to pay their guest pass fees, because i see it as no different as someone having a local wedding and then charging people to come to the venue.  And worse, after they already paid over $1000 in travel/accommodation fees to get there (so I don’t see how they are saving money).

Post # 10
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Busy Beekeeper

@kristiew417: well i wouldn’t stress about it too much until it actually happens. like i said, this almost happened to me with one couple as they told me they were looking into other resorts. In the end, they chose ours.  Also keep in mind that some people are going because they are taking advantage and making it a vacation for themselves, while getting to attend your wedding. They may not want to spend everyday with the group as they want their own personal vacation time for themselves. 

Also, something i learned through planning was that until someone is actually physically booked, i wouldn’t count them as coming. I had tons of people tell me they were definitely coming, they were so excited to come, etc…And I believe they meant it. But when it came down to booking, they realized it was not so simple. so i was disappointed when i got all these “no’s” from people i thought were “yes”.  it was funny because when we first planned it, i only expected a handful of people to come, like 8-10.  Then we had over 30 people tell us they were coming when in reality I ended up with 15 guests – technically double than what i first expected before my expectations were increased.

Post # 11
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Busy Beekeeper

oh something else to think about – your guests may not necessarily be purposely and knowingly expecting you to pay their guest pass fees.  When i told that couple who attended my wedding that if they stay elsewhere it was fine as i would take care of the guest passes, they responded with they had no idea there would be a fee a guest pass and offered to cover it themselves if it came down to it. (i of course replied and said don’t be ridiculous, i am inviting you and i will cover it!).  but at the time, i was secretly stressed over the extra money i would have to spend. I brought it up on weddingbee too and lots of bees replied saying they would not have guessed that a pass would be so expensive!

Post # 13
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

Are the guest passes for the purpose of allowing your guests to use the beach and beach chairs, pool, and other amenities and services on the grounds of the resort after your wedding ends, or are they actually required just for your guests to be able to attend your ceremony and reception on the property? 

Post # 14
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400 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I am a Destination Bride too… I think that the guests should pay and that you should make them well aware of the fee before your wedding

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

It sounds like you’re staying at a really nice, but expensive, resort. Isn’t it possible that the reason some guests want to stay elsewhere is that they can’t afford the resort your wedding is at? They might be “saving money” but they could be struggling financially. The extra $95 could be a financial burden they aren’t able to bear. If you make the guests pay, you might have some people that back out of coming to the wedding for financial reasons.

Often, people who are tight on money don’t talk about it and other don’t realize how bad things really are.

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I am doing a Destination Wedding in Jamaica as well , if anyone decides to stay at a more cost effective resort I would be offering to pay for their day passes as a thank you for making international trip to share that special day with us . We chose a 5 star resort , guests shouldnt feel obligated to have those same accomodations.  

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