Post # 1
So I am in a bit of a pickle here…. My dream videographer charges $6000 for their services (ouch!!) and my budget for film and photography TOGETHER is $6000. My brother is a photography student (top of his class, will be done with school by the time the wedding comes around, has assisted shooting weddings). He already told me he will be taking pictures all day regardless and he truly enjoys himself more when he is experincing things through his camera. Do you think it would be a big mistake to just let him do our photography for free (wedding gift) and hire the videographer who will capture all those little moments. I know we wont get as much pictures as if we went with a professional. I also know he wouldnt be in many pictures, but the videographer is also a photographer and could take a few of him and feature him heavily in the video.Or do I give up on the videographer and just get a professional photographer?
Post # 3
I generally frown on hiring relatives for anything, whether it’s home improvement or wedding-related activities.
1) If he misses key shots, you can’t get “mad” at him the way you can if you had professional photographers. He also won’t be able to really enjoy cocktail hour or dinner because he’s the photographer.
2) Professional photographers know what to capture and what key shots they need to get (e.g. the flowing veil in the wind shot) because they specialize in weddings.
3) Your brother will have to be on-call all night. In other words, if grandma or mom need anything, sorry, he’s busy!
4) Does he have time to edit all those photos for you? We’re talking hundreds here. Without the right software, editing all those will truly be a time-consuming activity.
I would just let him take photos as needed but still hired a professional photographer. I think videography is something that is more of a “nice to have” than a necessity, unlike photography.
Post # 4
@KaleighMarie: There are a lot of posts on here with Bees regretting/resenting a relative or friend because they had them photograph their wedding & they missed shots or the photos didn’t turn out very well. So just keep that in mind. It CAN risk the relationship you have with your brother. On the otherhand, it could go just fine or he could do an awesome job- he just wouldn’t be in many photos. If you go with your brother, get a contract. I’m photographing one of my closest friend’s wedding this month & we have a contract. I don’t think she’d sue me, its not just to cover that… its to cover you BOTH & so all times/locations/expectations are clearly laid out.
If you do hire a pro, you should ask your brother not to take photos during the ceremony, but the reception should be fine. You don’t want him ruining your pro’s shots! Some pros won’t allow other photographers to shoot, so you’ll need to ask your photographer if they’re okay with that.
I think if you do go with your brother, talk to your videographer. Ask to see his work (pay attention to the entire family photos, is he good at posing them?). An alternative would be to talk to your brother & see if he knows of any other good photography students who might be able to photograph just the family portraits. Family pictures are *usually* the most displayed photos in homes (& of course the bride & groom). In most families, your wedding is the only time your entire family will be at the same place (including your extended family).
Would you feel comfortable kissing your Darling Husband in front of your brother, for photos. & would your Darling Husband be okay with it as well? Some relatives just aren’t as comfortable with that, they’d feel akward. You could do an engagement shoot with him & see how that goes.
ETA: You said he has assisted photographing other weddings – how many? Can he show you an entire wedding he shot?
Post # 5
oh our cousin was going to do our pics as her gift to us… yeah she bailed ….TWO DAYS BEFORE THE WEDDING .. for a paying gig.
so we had another family member, who is building her business and had no idea wtf she was doing but we had two days to come up with something. SO NO i don’t reccomend
Post # 6
@canthugallcats: We are going to have him do our engagement shot, so maybe that will be a good way to gauge how things will go. Thanks for that suggestion, I didnt think of that. I have seen a lot of his work and I love everthing he comes out with. I think it would be a big risk though…. I am trying to let go of the videographers, they are just so darn good
Post # 7
@HisIrishPrincess: I’m so sorry :(. That is awful! Did your photos turn out okay? (sorry I’m not meaning to threadjack).
Post # 8
@KaleighMarie: I can’t say this strongly enough… professional photography > videography. Your wedding album will be out on display all the time, not to mention the photos you’ll get framed for your house! You might watch the video once a year if that. With a $6000 budget, you can easily split and hire a really good photographer and a decent videographer… or look into going with someone who offers both services! I would NOT let a family member do your photos… you will regret it, I’m sorry to say. As a pro photog, I know that second shooting a wedding and going to photography school are no substitute for the experience a seasoned pro has shooting wedding after wedding… there’s just no way his photos will cut it. There’s too much an experienced wedding photographer has in terms of knowledge, skill, and gear that your brother will not have.
I could go on and on about the reasons why family members shouldn’t be responsible for something like this from the perspective of, what are you going to do if you get terrible results? It will create a strain on your relationship that you don’t need. And in addition, your brother should be at your wedding as a GUEST…. a wedding photographer works EVERY SINGLE MINUTE of the event. If your brother were to even begin to try to do a good job he would have to do this, and I’m guessing you wouldn’t want him to.
Please think about this! I wouldn’t say this so strongly if I didn’t really believe that this would be a mistake for you.
Post # 9
@canthugallcats: they weren’t the greatest ever … but i think my dad would have done the same job for … free 😀
Post # 10
I say hire the professional photographer and give your brother a camcorder. Or if he is actually a photography student, he should have a decent DSLR in which almost all have GREAT HD video capabilities.
Seriously, in 30 years you will look back on your pictures and probably wonder where the hell that DVD of your wedding went.
Post # 11
Don’t have your brother take the pictures. Hire another photographer. Trust me, this NEVER works out well.
Post # 12
@KaleighMarie: My brother had my younger brother do photography for his wedding, and I would not recommend it. It’s one thing for him to take photos at his leisure, and completely another to be responsible for your wedding memories.
My poor little brother worked his butt off taking pictures, and making sure they got all their shots. He barely ate, didn’t get to enjoy the wedding, or visit with my brother and his new wife (or anyone, really). Sure, he got paid for it, but he basically missed out on my brother’s wedding. I’m expecting nothing from him at my wedding, other than to enjoy himself.
Post # 13
@KaleighMarie: I absolutely think this would be a mistake. For one it’s a lot of pressure for him if he’s the only one and knows that, to make sure he captures everything. Two, just because he is a great photog doesn’t mean he knows how to shoot weddings. Three, who is going to take your family pics or get Him in your photos?
Hire a professional photographyer, without a doubt.
Post # 14
If you are not invested in the outcome of photos at all then go for it. However if you are willing to spend $6000 on video I can pretty much say you will be expecting top of the line photography. Don’t do it, you are risking the relationship and your wedding photos at the same time. If his equipment fails you are not covered. If you have a disagreement before, during or after you will not get your photos and the good photographers will already be booked. He can take pics all day and focus on your details to cut the time a professional would spend but other than that … It’s a risk
Post # 15
Budget of $6000 will get a great $2500 photographer AND $3500 videogpraher and that is exactly what I would do if I was in OP’s shoes. $3500 video would be amazing enough.
@KaleighMarie: Honestly, you are lucky to have such a big budget for those things. I absolutly think you should be more realistic and creative about what you can do with your budget rather than sticking to your original impression.
Post # 16
Your brother must know someone at school that can do videography for you.