(Closed) Having a hard day

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
Member
580 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@jpalm13: Breathe love. I know how you feel, my SO has had the ring for 5 months now. I think he’s waiting til our anniversary next month, if it’s after that, I will go nuts. Honestly, I don’t know what I’ll do if it’s not soon. So yeah :/ One day at a time. ((Hugs))

Post # 4
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9670 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

It’s hard to answer your question without knowing more details.  In my case, I never had to “wait” for any amount of time – our relationship just flowed naturally all along. 

How long have you been together?  Have you discussed marriage in depth?  What are your ages?  There are a lot of factors at play when it comes to a proposal, a wedding and marriage.

If you’re losing interest, are you losing interest in waiting for a proposal or are you losing interest in him?  If my Fiance had wanted to wait overly long to propose I would have wanted to know what his reasons were.

Post # 6
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1157 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

First off, I know how you feel! I haven’t been waiting that long, but we’ve been together about the same amount of time. All the pieces are there and now, it’s my turn to wait and the ball is in his court.

Have you specifically talked to him about a general timeline? It’s difficult to wait for an unspecified amount of time and the best way to cure that is to make sure you’re both on the same page. I think it’s relatively normal to get bored/lose interest/get frustrated during the waiting part of this whole thing. The best thing I’ve heard to help is to find hobbies or stay busy. Do things that make you happy! Focusing on the waiting makes it much worse. I also think it comes in waves. Sometimes you’ll feel content waiting and other times you’ll feel like its unbearable. There was a VERY good post last week about “happily waiting” that really helped me. The OP basically said she had decided that she was missing out on a lot of things, including how amazing and wonderful her SO was because she was too focused on the waiting. If you can find that thread, you should read it. Hope this helps!

Post # 7
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10367 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

You’re only 24 and you’ve only been together a year and a half. If I were a guy, I would assume that meant it wasn’t a huge rush.

If it’s bothering you enough to effect your relationship, you owe it to him to discuss it.

Post # 8
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1278 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I think we all have hard days at times and get frustrated with waiting. I would only suggest that you share your thoughts with him if it is really affecting your relationship.

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