Having a hard time, and there's no one to talk to…

posted 1 year ago in Emotional
Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

SarahSarah :  you don’t sound at all like you have negative feelings towards your daughter. It sounds like you are a loving parent who is an advocate for her development. With the background knowledge of aspergers in your family just illustrates your awareness and care. Like I said previously, you are doing a great job exploring early intervention if needed. I’ve worked with many children whose parents seemed to be in denial and were not open to any sort of assessment, when it could have greatly benefited their child. Continue to be an advocate for your child! You are doing a great job!

As an aside, I went back and read your OP. I saw that you were concerned about your child being assigned a label, which is a valid worry. Labels are a double-edged sword in that way. They do, however, let your child access the services and assessments that she may need much easier.

Post # 17
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

OP neither of my nephews were taking until they were over 2 years and both are doing very well at school and bright, functioning children.

I apparently did not speak until i was 2 and then it was full sentences with an amazing vocabulary and have grown up with zero issues and managed to go to university and live a successful life. 

As someone who works in Early Childhood the range between children is huge at this age and some children may have great language but be behind in gross motor skills or social skills etc. Until you have actually been told something is wrong then don’t waste energy making yourself stressed out. Just see what happens and take it a day at a time. 

Post # 18
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Worker bee

I was in a nearly identical situation. My oldest two are very close in age, and my older child spoke in full sentences by 16 months! My Dear Daughter barely spoke at all before 2, even then she would say a word then it would disappear for months. I explored every rabbit hole on the internet, but today she is 5 and she is very very bright. Well above her grade level in everything! It’s so hard not to worry when they are little. Just give her a little more time, she will get there. 

Post # 19
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

I think you’ve set the wheels in motion to have her evaluated and now you just need to take a deep breath. Because worrying won’t help. I have 3 kids. The oldest was slow to talk-nearly 2, but is now a mouthy 14 year old. My middle child spoke early. My youngest is somewhere in between. She is 16 months and just started putting 2 words together yesterday (“bye-bye bird!”) whereas my middle was doing that at 11 months. All my kids are so different, as I’m sure yours are. If your daughter needs intervention it’s awesome that you are getting it now. But until you know- try not to worry- she is still so young and within the “normal” range in my non-professional mom opinion.

Post # 20
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Helper bee

FWIW, I started speaking at 9 months, spoke in full sentences at 15 months, and my younger brother (exact same parents) was silent until the age of 2. Now we’re both in our twenties and most people would probably consider him the smarter and more successful sibling, although I probably still have the better language skills (trilingual despite completely monolingual parents). He’s more of a STEM guy.

But since early discovery may be beneficial on the off chance that there is something wrong, maybe ask your doctor for a test again and see what they say? Can you get a second opinion without paying through your nose? That said, I’d probably wait until your daughter was 2 or so.

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