Post # 1
Last night my fi and I were having dinner with his family. My future SIL (his brother’s wife) parents were also there and they were asking us about the wedding. I don’t know them that well but the mother kept asking me about my wedding dress (I’m making it) at the dinner table. I really don’t want EVERYONE to know what my dress looks like before the wedding but she kept bugging me so I showed her a picture of it on my phone.
My fiance was sitting right there so I was already uncomfortable talking about my dress, but she would NOT let it go. After I sat down she kept asking me about it, I couldn’t tell, what color was it? is that silk? why did you decide to go strapless? all while my Fiance was sitting next to me. I tried to politely tell her my fi doesn’t know what it looks like and I thought she dropped it until she asked me again, in front of him,
I don’t think my Fiance cared at all, but I already feel like he knows my style so well he knows what my dress is going to look like and she doesn’t need to give him an even better visual.
Anyone else having a hard time keeping the style of your dress a secret? I still have 9 months to go!
Post # 3
@jbarker09: I would always tell people I wanted it to be a surprise. Sounds like that women didn’t take the hint well! Sorry you had to deal with that 🙁
Post # 4
I find it difficult, but only because Mr Rangers and i share everything together. I know it will be worth it when i see his face on our wedding day! I want him to be totally blown away when he sees me! I would just tell anyone who asks that it is a secret and refuse to discuss it. Its a bit rude to try and push a bride into discussing details if she doesnt offer first…
Post # 5
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
I also told people it was going to be a surprise. The only people who knew what it looked before the wedding were Mom and her best friend, my two MOHs, and my hairdresser.
In your case, especially since you’re making it, just sweetly say “it’s going to be a surprise,” then zip it. 🙂 Someone asks again- “It’s going to be a surprise.” Repeat as needed.
Post # 6
I’m having trouble with this too, because my Fiance is not just my best friend but practically the other half of my brain, AND our families are really great at asking tons (TONS) of questions and terrible at keeping details secret! So what I’ve done to keep my stress down about this:
1. Decide we’ll have a first look. Knowing that he’ll see me anyway before the “big reveal” makes me a little calmer and realize if he hears a detail or two, it wont matter.
2. LIE. LIE YOUR ASS OFF. Once someone blows past your polite “I’m trying to keep it a surprise, thanks” and keeps pushing, you owe them NOTHING! So just go nuts and try to one-up yourself. So far I’ve mentioned feathers, mullet hems, sequins, two bustles, strapless/spaghetti straps/leg o’ mutton 80’s sleeves, lace, flowers, beads, pickups, open back, side slit, mandarin collar and a giant Playboy bunny tail. My fiance joins in on the fun even (he suggested the sequins), and privately admits to me he has no freaking clue what my dress actually is. 😉
Post # 7
@whammy: HAHA great advice, thanks 🙂
Post # 8
I’m having a hard time keeping it a secret as well! Not because people are prying, but because I think it is so beautiful and want to tell the whoooole world haha. If it ever comes up in conversation, I just say that the feathers and turtleneck really look amazing 😉
Post # 9
@whammy: THAT’S hilarious. I LOL’d. Then my Fiance asked me what I laughed about and I told him to nevermind. And he kept asking and said he felt left out because I laughed so loud. Then I read your reply to him and he found it very amusing.
Post # 10
My mom is the one who is telling everyone about my dress. I was at my parents house the other day and saw that her iPad was open to a picture of my dress on the David’s Bridal Website (Thank goodness Fiance wasn’t with me). I asked her why she was looking at it and she told me that a couple of my Aunts stopped by and she showed them the picture. I told her (for the third time) to stop showing everyone and she said she can’t help it because she loves it so much. The only person I really don’t want to see it is my Fiance, but I just feel like the more people who know about it, the more likely someone is to slip and tell him something.
Post # 11
My Future Father-In-Law was asking me the same questions at Christmas. But I refused to answer anything and (my mom said) I got a little snarky. My fiance was right there and was also saying not to ask because he didn’t want to know!
It is frustrating, but your fiance will be surprised that day no matter what! Don’t let them get you down.
Post # 12
Id say its got sleeves, and is a big ball gown, etc etc and then when its not on the day tell her you changed your mind at the last minute. so rude of her to ask infront of your fiancee! some people have NO idea
Post # 13
I’m lucky, my work place is very informal and I rarely work with the same group of people week to week which means I can blab all I like about wedding details, I might not even see them again let alone every show them my pictures or even contemplate having them as a colleague guest. Failing that I can shout about it on the internet.
This however is a total fail in you mil2bs manners!