(Closed) Having a hard time not showing FI my dress.

posted 9 years ago in Dress
Post # 17
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31 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I’ve barely been able to hold out.

Instead of showing him the actual dress, I’ve been showing him dresses that I DON’T like to make sure he gives it the same reaction that I would.

Not only is it funny, but it kind of helps me to make sure that we’re on the same page as far as what he likes. Yes, I want to love my dress, but I want him to love it too. 🙂

Post # 18
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7550 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2019

I completely understand! I share EVERYTHING with Fiance and I will go nuts not showing him the dress when I get one, I love looking online at dresses (have only gone into a shop once cos my wedding is 3 years away) but it is really hard not to show him any!

Post # 19
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925 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I’m terrible at keeping things from my SO, so I would have already shown him pictures.  Embarassed

Post # 20
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649 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I understand…buying my dress was on a whim!  So when I got it home it was so hard not to show him! I then later on bought the shoes and my reception dress….I showed him the fascinator and the shoes….he loves the shoes…which is weird because he normally doesn’t say anything about it…

Post # 21
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149 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I totally understand. I share everything with my Fiance too, he is my best friend. I naturally thought I would partially include him on my dress choices and whatnot. But, when I told my mother this plan she freaked out and insisted that he must not see the dress until the wedding day. 

Post # 22
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7384 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

Seriously, I want to show my Fiance the dress SO BAD. I know he’ll like it because it’s very simple and flattering–nothing complicated or fussy. I wanted a dress that I knew he wouldn’t like, mostly because I like dramatic dresses, but I was mostly trying to be practical. I could barely move and couldn’t sit in any of the dramatic dresses that I tried on (and they were way too heavy), and my dress is only fitted up top, so I can move/dance/sit just fine in it. I’ve showed him dresses that I tried on, but not the one I chose. He actually asked me the other day if I showed him the dress that I got and didn’t tell him!

Post # 23
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2567 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I went dress-shopping with my fiance and today we go back to have the first alterations meeting together. i’ve got no problem with him seeing the dress or even seeing me in it. Mainly because he’s the person I trust most in the world and I couldn’t imagine making a purchase like this without his opinion. 

Share whatever you feel comfortable with. It’s not going to doom you to divorce if he knows what the dress looks like– you will look 100% different in it on the big day with hairdo and makeup and accessories anyway!

Post # 24
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885 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I am pretty bad at surprises but I have done well on this one (bought my dress in May). I want to see his reaction the first time he sees my dress/me in it AT our wedding. I want the full blown effect so that’s making it a lot easier!

Post # 25
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7384 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

@fishbone:  I really wanted him to come dress shopping with me (because his was the only opinion I cared about), and he backed out at the last minute! 

Post # 26
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9168 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I showed him! I tell him everything and couldn’t wait! I also wanted to know he lovEd it too.

Post # 27
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514 posts
Busy bee

Oh my god, me too!  It’s so hard because we’re so open and we share everything with each other.  He wants to be surprised though, so he doesn’t want to know anything about the gown. He does know that it will be pink and he’s actually really excited about that part.  (I never wear white and he knows that is my favorite color, and that I’ll be more comfortable in it)

We did watch an episode of SYTTD a few months ago, however, and there was a bride wearin a Lazaro gown very similiar to mine.  I asked him what he thought of it and he really liked it.  He usually hates all the gowns on that show lol.  So that is promising at least!

Post # 28
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639 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

LOL I have the same problem!! Just wait until you actually buy a dress and it comes in… It’s sitting in a garment bag in the closet and I always want to try it on and show my FI! But I think I can wait it out 4 more months, for the priceless look on his face when I wear it for the first time, all dressed up on the wedding day 🙂

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