Post # 1
My Darling Husband & I got married 8 months ago & have been ttc since. It hasn’t happened yet & im having a really difficult time with it. Darling Husband has a very low (basically no) sex drive at all due to some meds that he needs to be on. So, if/when we do BD, it only happens one time a month during my fertile window. I believe he is the reason we aren’t getting pregnant bc my cycle is like clock work & I chart like an obsessive person. It’s only been 8 months but I am so down & out over not being pregnant. I’ve quit following certain pages I belonged to on fb bc I can’t stand to see anyone else’s positive pregnancy tests & I am starting to resent my Darling Husband (although I love him dearly). I got the name of a fertility,it’s specialist today from my pcp & am going to call and make an appointment. Im thinking iui or something similar will be our best/only option.
I just needed to vent as I cannot say this out loud to my Darling Husband bc it doesn’t help & my friends don’t get it (they’ve all gotten pregnant within the first 2-3 months of trying).
Post # 2
Are there any alternatives to the medication your Darling Husband is on? Has he talked to his doctor? Having no sex drive is going to impact your relationship beyond just TTC.
Post # 3
mandakay0021 : My Darling Husband is on medication too… he was actually on medication that made it nearly impossible for him to ejaculate, but overall, his sex drive was nearly nothing. After our first cycle trying, I found him a doctor he could feel comfortable talking to (no joke, this doctor had hundreds of reviews about how well she listens). He switched medication, and now we’re able to BD a few times within the fertile window, but his sex drive is still lower than I would like…. I honestly feel like we ONLY BD at that time 🙁
We’re 6 months/7 cycles in, so almost as long as you, and it’s just not happening for us either. My bbt just plummeted this morning, so now I’m waiting for AF and to go into my 8th cycle. I understand the frustration. I actually just emailed my doctor this morning to ask if there’s anything we can do.
My Darling Husband has an appt with his doctor in July… he’s going to ask if he can get an SA ordered.
Best of luck, Bee <3 So many of us are going through these kinds of difficulties. Feel free to vent away.
Post # 4
hikingbride : There technically are other meds but at this point it’s not an easy change bc he would go through horrible withdrawals if he switched. This isn’t new for us. We went over a year without having sex before because of his meds. It’s definitely impacted more than most ttc but I love him & understand why he needs the meds.
SeaOfLove : Ejaculating is DH’s biggest problem too. We actually had sex on our va action last week for over an hour- it was the best sex we had ever had but he couldn’t get off. He is about to occasionally ejaculate when master bating which is why I’m wanting to get in with afertility specialist. When it’s my O week he takes a smaller dose of his meds so it helps but it’s just hard… and of course I always feel worthless when he’s unable to O himself.
Post # 5
mandakay0021 : I know the withdrawals are horrible… Darling Husband went through it too 🙁 but it takes time to find something that works well for him. I do recommend he talk to a doctor. It will help his mood and your marriage.