(Closed) Having a hard time with bridesmaids…

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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267 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@LabDarling:  Don’t worry!  Think about it this way: your wedding is not a “show,” it’s the establishment of a lasting loving relationship. It’s not about whether or not it’s even on each side.  You don’t want to be disingenuous having women stand up for you that are not your close friends. Do you really just want to “fill spots?”  I’d venture to guess that authenticity is more important to you and your Fiance.  Your photos will be beautiful no matter how many people you have in your bridal party because you will RADIANT and DRAMA-FREE with EXACTLY the people you cherish the most.  Let it go.  You don’t need to fill this spot and you especially don’t need to fill it with someone that you aren’t feeling 100% solid about.  save yourself the headache and heartache and just let your day be full and complete with whom you’ve chosen.

Post # 4
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267 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

oh, i wasn’t going to have bridesmaids originally. we really didn’t want the headache. my son is going to be FIs best man and i asked my middle sister to be my Maid/Matron of Honor.  i ended up asking my two other sisters to be bridesmaids and Fiance asked his two brothers to be groomsmen.  our friends are invited but are not in the wedding party so that we could keep it small.

even without being bridemaids i have wonderful girlfriends who have offered with no prompting from me to help in any way i need and so far they have.

Post # 5
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1006 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

Why did you let your Fiance talk you out of having your cousins? If you are close to them and want them to be bridesmaids, who cares if they can’t join in the bachelorette party. It should be more about who you want with you on your day than who can give the most money toward parties or whatever.

Post # 6
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2587 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - UK

I guess we do bridal parties a bit differently over here – teenage bridesmaids wouldn’t be a problem at all! And with four adults already organising stuff, would you really miss having the two pairs of hands? If they’re important to you, it makes sense to me to have your cousins instead of just trying to ‘fill spaces’.

Post # 7
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13251 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I would pick whoever you want for your bridal party – cousins, teenagers, coworkers, friends – whoever YOU want standing next to you.  The numbers don’t have to match your fiance’s.  Don’t let him talk you out of anyone! 

I would also advise not picking someone you had a major falling-out with, when the friendship doesn’t seem like it’s back at the same spot.  If you have reservations about how she’ll act, that’s probably a red flag that you shouldn’t have her in the Bridal Party. 

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