(Closed) Having a hard time with registry… what non-trad things did you add?

posted 5 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Maybe consider a honeymoon registry! We have a LOT on our traditional registries on top of our honeymoon one, and it sounds like something you might be interested in. 🙂

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@bkrocks13:  I’m a traditionalist.  I think the purpose of wedding gifts and wedding registries are to help a newly married couple set up housekeeping.  I do not think its a free for all list for anything you may happen to want.  I’ll be honest – its a bit off-putting to me when a couple says they have everything they need already and instead of following that up with “so we really don’t need/want gifts” they simply want to demand cash or redirect their guests spending to something else they’ve decided they do want.  I feel that’s inappropriate. 

If you really don’t want/need anything like nice towels, sheets, bakeware, dishes, china, or other housewares, etc. then my advise to you would be to simply not have a registry at all and just let your guests choose a gift that they think will please you – that is the whole point of a gift anyway. 

The practical upside of this is that sans a registry, its quite likely that a lot of people will give you cash which you can toward big ticket items like a new couch. 

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@bkrocks13:  you don’t have to! You register for your “dream” honeymoon and you get what you get. Fiance and I are registered for a week in Belize, but we expect we won’t get nearly enough for it. we think what will probably happen is we’ll get half the registry amount, cash it out and use the cash to book a trip to Hawaii and stay in a family friend’s timeshare for 4-5 nights. They’re super flexible!

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

My Fiance and I have been living together for 7 years and already own a home. I had a hard time filling up a registry too – we just already have most of what we need, so we did a honeymoon registry. Even though your trip isn’t set in stone and may not be until 2014 I would still do it. Without enough on your registry a lot of people are going to buy you off the wall things you may not like and/or give you cash. Cash is good, but some people want to give an actual gift so the honeymoon thing would work in that instance.

You can also go for non traditiona with TVs and electronics, but that always rubs me the wrong way when I see those types of things on a wedding registry.

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I’m also a bit more traditional, and in my region/social circle, honeymoon registries or any registry asking for cash is considered tasteless & rude. 

I did have the same situation as you though, we had already been living together so we didn’t really need to start from scratch and set up our own entire house full of items.  So, what we did instead was register for upgrades (got my Keurig!) and a nicer matching set of dishes, pots & pans, better blender, bigger crockpot, etc…  We also registered for additional sheets & towels- you can never have enough nice towels!

We decided to have a yardsale later this spring to get rid of my old coffee pot, the old pots & pans, and a few other things that we were able to upgrade after the wedding.

Luckily for us, many people still gifted us cash or gift cards, but we didn’t get too many super random gifts that were not our style, since we still set up a traditional registry.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Are you talking about the wedding or bridal shower? 

 

Around here we do gifts for showers and cash for weddings. If that’s the case, I would say just skip the shower. Hopefully if you don’t register for a lot you will get cash for the wedding.

 

My friends had a donation fund set up on their website. In lieu of gifts, people could donate to the shelter where they got their dog. 

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I had the same issue, but I upgraded a bunch of stuff.  I also asked my mom and my sister for things that they wish they had that they don’t, or for things that just make their life easier (like a flour sifter or a marble rolling pin), and I added those.  I was surprised at how quickly the list accumulated.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@bkrocks13:  Obviously, you can do as you like and you know your friends and family – but…In My Humble Opinion, its really not appropriate to include pet toys on your registry.  Again, if you don’t have a registry or just a small one – people will likely give you cash that you can use toward anything you like.  Weddings and wedding gifts really aren’t like birthday or Christmas wish lists.  If you can’t think of anything for you and your SO or your household – I’d just not say or include anything and let the guests figure it out on their own. 

 

Post # 14
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Bumble bee

Whatever you do, please do not ask for lego sets, makeup sets, and golf clubs. Okay understood you add whatevet you can think of, but asking your guests to think about buying two childless adults legos is completely crazy to me lol. correct me If I’m out of line please. (a wedding we are attending asked for these and other non traditional items).

 

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@bkrocks13:  I am a traditional gift giver, in that I like to give plates or wine glasses. But if I saw a registry with just cooking classes or other fun things, that’s what I would give or Amazon gift card to use toward something. 

 

So I say fill it up!

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@TwoStatesBride:  And this is why I don’t like Honeymoon registries.  Here I am thinking I’m getting you a nice lagoon tour or dinner on your Honeymoon and you take the cash and use it for something else.  It’s very deceiving. =/

 

OP, don’t create a registry just to have one.  Register for what you need and want and nothing more.  When people ask, just say you have a small registry at X but are saving up for a new couch and/or your Honeymoon.  People will get the hint that you would prefer cash.

 

But if you are looking for other things, what about tools or camping equipment or other equipment for a hobby that you both love and share? 

ETA: Just saw your update.  Unfortunately, I don’t think toys for your dogs is an appropriate thing for your registry.

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