- 7 years ago
- Wedding: June 2011
I’m struggling with the idea of buying things for the wedding. I don’t have any money – taxes are coming due soon, etc. My parents want to pay for a lot, but I feel so bad taking their money since they’ve been having a rough time themselves. They keep telling me since I’m only doing it once, I should do it right. My fiance would very likely pay for anything I asked…already offered to buy my dress, as have my parents. The generosity from everyone makes me cry.
I don’t know what to do. Do I keep pushing things like how I would be fine with a used dress? That some decorations from a place like Oriental Trading (I just want a luau type meal and tropical decorations) is ok? I just feel neurotic about spending money when I have none myself and taking it from people.
I have free locations for the ceremony and both receptions (one is a backyard in CA, and back here we’re just going to have a fun party in a park with our friends, very casual and inexpensive for that one). His mom is making the cakes. There won’t be alcohol. I would imagine it would be under $5000 in any case, but I don’t know.
I don’t want to turn into a bridezilla about it all though. Money just stresses me out period. I start tearing up every time I think about it. We’re not going to elope, though, and I do want to have fun and celebrate with our relatives and friends. Sigh.