(Closed) having a male “bridesmaid” and a female “groomsman”

posted 8 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

We’re doing the same thing, but with friends, not family members. I have a really close male friend and my fiance has a really close female friend. I see no reason why his friend should have to stand on my side, nor vice versa. Just make sure your photographer knows the situation, so the groups are divided up accordingly during wedding party photos.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee

I don’t think it’ll be weird at all.  If we hadn’t decided to limit our party to two witnesses we’d have had mixed gender parties too.  I think it would be super strange to ask him to have my friends who happen to be male as his groomsmen but if I were having more than one person on my side no way could I leave them out. 

Post # 5
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Sugar bee

I don’t think it’s weird – what ever floats your boat!

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I don’t think it’s weird. FH is having a Best Woman, because his best friend of over 20 years is female. Nothing weird about it at all! 🙂

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

We’re having a groomswoman and renaming his side “the groom’s squad.”  I love that he wants to have his best friends up there with him, male or female.  That’s what it’s really all about!

Post # 8
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

No, not weird at all! In fact, I think it’s the best way to do it =]

My SIL stood on his side

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Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

We are having it as well. We are calling them the Bridesman and Groomswoman.

Nothing weird with it at all!

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I think you should do whatever you and your Fiance are comfortable with.  You won’t be the first to have male bridesmaids and female groomsmen. 

My Fiance and I are encores.  He is having his daughters as his attendants and I am having my children as mine.  That is what makes sense for us and makes us happy.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Same here.  I have a “Man of Honor”.  I don’t see anything wrong of having a bride’s male friend stand on her side or a groom’s female friend stand on his side.  I think it’s cool that bride/groom have friends from the opposite gender.  Such is life…male or female…if they’re good friends….who cares what it looks like when they’re standing on the altar?  The most important part is that these people are here to witness your wedding day and support your partnership as husband and wife.

Post # 12
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Definitely go for it.  We’re having our sisters stand up there with us, he has three and I have one so it will look lopsided but I don’t care.  I love breaking the wedding “rules,” especially when it will make our ceremony so much more personal for us. 🙂

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

i wish i had had a bridesman. i should have!!!

Post # 14
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I love the idea of having a mixed bridal party stand on each side. The boys were called masters of honor and the girls were groomswoman in the instances I’ve seen t happen.

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I went to a wedding where the only wedding party was the bride’s brother on her side and the groom’s sister on his.  I thought it was really nice – not at all awkward and really touching that they’d each chosen their siblings to stand beside them.

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

We’re having a Groomswoman and a Bridesman! Do whatever works, and makes sense, for you. I think it’s fun to stray away from the traditional bridal party that’s divided along gender lines.

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