Post # 1
Would it be weird to have my brother stand by my side at the ceremony and have FI’s sister stand on FI’s side?
We’re not really doing the whole typical bridal party thing (showers, bachelor parties etc). I grew up very close to two cousins that happen to be female and I may ask them to try to coordinate their dresses and stand next to me. FI grew up close to two male cousins and may ask them to stand with him.
Of course, we also want to include our siblings. I’m not close with his sister and he’s not close with my brother.
It seems silly that if I had a sister instead of a brother there would be no question of him standing next to me during the ceremony (same thing goes for if my Fiance had a brother instead of a sister too). But would people think this is weird/confusing? Is this common at all?
Post # 3
We’re doing the same thing, but with friends, not family members. I have a really close male friend and my fiance has a really close female friend. I see no reason why his friend should have to stand on my side, nor vice versa. Just make sure your photographer knows the situation, so the groups are divided up accordingly during wedding party photos.
Post # 4
I don’t think it’ll be weird at all. If we hadn’t decided to limit our party to two witnesses we’d have had mixed gender parties too. I think it would be super strange to ask him to have my friends who happen to be male as his groomsmen but if I were having more than one person on my side no way could I leave them out.
Post # 5
I don’t think it’s weird – what ever floats your boat!
Post # 6
I don’t think it’s weird. FH is having a Best Woman, because his best friend of over 20 years is female. Nothing weird about it at all! 🙂
Post # 7
We’re having a groomswoman and renaming his side “the groom’s squad.” I love that he wants to have his best friends up there with him, male or female. That’s what it’s really all about!
Post # 8
No, not weird at all! In fact, I think it’s the best way to do it =]
My SIL stood on his side
Post # 9
We are having it as well. We are calling them the Bridesman and Groomswoman.
Nothing weird with it at all!
Post # 10
I think you should do whatever you and your Fiance are comfortable with. You won’t be the first to have male bridesmaids and female groomsmen.
My Fiance and I are encores. He is having his daughters as his attendants and I am having my children as mine. That is what makes sense for us and makes us happy.
Post # 11
Same here. I have a “Man of Honor”. I don’t see anything wrong of having a bride’s male friend stand on her side or a groom’s female friend stand on his side. I think it’s cool that bride/groom have friends from the opposite gender. Such is life…male or female…if they’re good friends….who cares what it looks like when they’re standing on the altar? The most important part is that these people are here to witness your wedding day and support your partnership as husband and wife.
Post # 12
Definitely go for it. We’re having our sisters stand up there with us, he has three and I have one so it will look lopsided but I don’t care. I love breaking the wedding “rules,” especially when it will make our ceremony so much more personal for us. 🙂
Post # 13
i wish i had had a bridesman. i should have!!!
Post # 14
I love the idea of having a mixed bridal party stand on each side. The boys were called masters of honor and the girls were groomswoman in the instances I’ve seen t happen.
Post # 15
I went to a wedding where the only wedding party was the bride’s brother on her side and the groom’s sister on his. I thought it was really nice – not at all awkward and really touching that they’d each chosen their siblings to stand beside them.
Post # 16
We’re having a Groomswoman and a Bridesman! Do whatever works, and makes sense, for you. I think it’s fun to stray away from the traditional bridal party that’s divided along gender lines.