(Closed) Having a nervous breakdown

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 4
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1348 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

Alright, first of all if you aren’t ok with strippers at the bucks night, tell him that. Not all couples are ok with strippers.

If you are having a tough time with everything, then you really do need to delegate. I am a control freak and would really rather not have anyone else messing around with my wedding ideas, but if you are stressed and are having a tough time coping, then it’s time to realise that your happiness is more important than if everything is ‘perfect’. A helpful tip: do NOT aim for perfection. Personally, I think that may be part of why the rustic theme is so huge right now- the idea is for things to have an ‘imperfect’ look. I’ve always found that with really important things (even a heading for a school project) that trying to make things perfect never ended well and never measured up to the idea in my head, but when I tried to make things look imperfect it came out great. I could tru for hours to do my neat, small writing for a heading and it would come out funny because I had tried so hard, but if I did a more ‘fun’ kind of font then it would look great. Don’t try to make your wedding perfect, it either won’t be as beautiful as the image in your head, or you’ll go crazy making everything just right.

I don’t know what to say about the issue of not knowing anyone at the wedding, that really sucks. Maybe you could go for a short trip to meet his family before the big day, or have another reception ain your home town?

Post # 5
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286 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

Is there any way you can do two ceremonies – one where you could have your family attend & the other in NZ? Can you enlist of Fiance to take over a couple big tasks in the planning? As for strippers, talk to him about that calmly and explain why you’re uncomfortable with it. I know strippers are the norm, but no one like the thought of their Fiance at a stripper bachelor party. 

Before you doanything though, get some rest and sleep. Give yourself three days where you don’t do any wedding planning. Take that time to recharge and remind yourself why you want to marry your Fiance. If your depression is serious go speak with acounsellor or therapist. Weddings can be super stressful and marriage is a huge change. I think it’snormal for you to feel the way you do.

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