(Closed) Having a "party" instead of a "reception"

posted 7 years ago in Reception
Post # 17
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  • Wedding: December 2012

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@CarterLove:  Thanks for the UPDATE & answering my Questions.

Ok you are most certainly looking at a Tiered Reception, with Wedding Elements.

Everything sounds fine for the most part.

PARENTS DANCE = You can skip this or do it.  You can do it JUST with your Dad, or your Hubby can Dance with his Mom.  It can be 1/2 + 1/2 during the same song… or 2 different songs.

TOASTS = If you are going to have Wedding Cake… and one assume you’ll pose for a Photo of the two cutting the cake as well… then you really need to arrange for someone to lead the Toast… it can be very very simple… someone saying “To the Bride & Groom *… all the Best for Many Many Years to come” (or something similar).  And that is it, that is all.

* B&G can be replaced with the words “Happy Couple”… or “Mr & Mrs CarterLove” etc.  And a Toast can be with or without Alcohol.

SPEACHES = Not necessary.  Can be eliminated entirely… or done by a close family member at the Dinner.

BOUQUET & GARTER = Easy enough to opt in or out.  Length of your Dress doesn’t matter… you can do it the “traditional” way which is far more classy (no man under your skirts !!).  Just a girl with a sexy bit of leg up on a chair.  The woman controls the exposure.

The rest of your Party can be whatever you wish… in regards to Music, Games, Activities etc.

FOOD & BEVERAGES = Curious you mentioned Food & Beverage … in Reply # 15 to

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@sienna76: when you said:

We will be serving a late luncheon type meal but we have to have a cash bar, which I feel kinda bad about but we don’t have a choice.

I assume here you are talking about Late Night Eats for the Party Guests ?

As for the Bar element…

As a Fellow Canadian I sooooo get that Alcohol is Expensive… BUT you cannot have a FULL ON Cash Bar for the whole evening as that would be seen as RUDE

So as a cost savings measure your choices truly are:

You truly need to either go TOTALLY DRY

OR a COMBO Situation… where you the Hosts provide Alcohol to some extent… be it any of the following:

  • Signature Drink / Welcome Cocktail (can be done w/ or w/o Drink Tickets)**
  • Just Beer
  • Just Wine
  • Beer & Wine
  • A White Bar = White Rum, Gin, Vodka & White Wine
  • OR a Loonie / Twoonie Subsidized Bar

** Drink Tickets would be handed out to people as they arrive, and good for whatever Welcome Drink you choose (their choice, or yours… ie Signature Cocktail).  The thing with Drink Tickets in this situation is that you’d have some control over the Tab being run at the Bar.

Now by far the cheapest option when it comes to a Hall is if you can find one (Community Hall – Legion – Service Group) that will bring in your own Alcohol (rare option in Canada)… OR you use one of these Halls and get a good rate on BOTH Rental and Bar Service (Hourly Bartending Fee vs Amount of Booze Served)

So yes, lots to think about.

Hope this gets you started tho.

 

Post # 18
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@CarterLove:  The alcohol consisted of homebrew in mini kegs (these were from my graduate advisor who brews beer for all his graduates), lots of wine and bottled beer that we bought.  Not what I think of for an open bar, but nonetheless it was self serve.

Post # 21
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@sienna76:  Re – Homebrew Beer Kegs, Beer & Wine that you served … this was in Canada or the USA ?

 

Post # 22
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  • Wedding: August 2012

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@This Time Round:  USA. 

The mini kegs were warmly welcomed.  As my boss/adviser walked down the deck steps with them in hand and people were cheering.  LOL 

Post # 23
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

We had a Friday night ceremony with 24 immediate family-only guests followed by an elegant sitdown dinner.  That was technically the reception. On Saturday night we had a PARTY.  I did not wear wedding gown, no wedding cake, no bridal party, no wedding trappings at all.  Just a big party with a mariachi band, booze, lots of food, and a charter bus to transport our guests so there would be no drinking and driving.   Both events were held in my IL’s  backyard. 

Post # 24
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@sienna76:  Ya thought it might be. 

The OP is Canadian… and more often than not our Liquor Licensing Laws prohibit from bringing our own Booze into places and even in some Jurisdictions we have to get a permit to have a good sized party in a public space (ie Park) or even our own Backyards (that one depends usually on the size of the event).

Booze Laws here are waaaay different to the USA for sure.

And so are our prices…

Hence WHY we try to have as many “creative” solutions as we can for this sort of situation (DRY – RESTRICTED – COHOSTED – OPEN)

People Hosting an Event… do the best they can with the resources they have at hand… and Guests are kind enough to understand the limitations and the workarounds needed.

 

Post # 25
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@This Time Round:  Utah has some of the most strict liquor laws out of any state in the US due to all the Mormons in the legislature, but I did not look into them before the party.

However, I did not notice that she was from Canada or what Canadian rules are.  Thank you for the insight!

Post # 26
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@sienna76:  True enough… I forgot you were from Utah (duh) … Sorry !!

By The Way.. you had me drooling at the story about the Homebrew Mini Kegs… you sound like you have a marvellous Boss.

 

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