(Closed) Having a Private Dinner with Fi during reception?

posted 9 years ago in Reception
Post # 32
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I think it’s rude when people bother others during dinner. There is plenty of time to greet but the food doesn’t stay hot and fresh forever. The bride and groom need to eat too.

Make a toast before dinner and at the end say something like “now let’s eat and then greet”.

I’m glad my wedding is so small that I don’t have this problem…

Post # 33
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I personally don’t like the idea of leaving to eat somewhere else. They are your guests and you should eat with them. I also never had any problems eating at my wedding. If you are all eating at the same time I don’t see why guests would be leaving their table to come and talk to you.

Post # 34
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 1999

Not a fan of this idea at all. We didn’t have a single interuption during dinner. Maybe the placement of the head table (we had a King’s table with people on both sides) had something to do with it. But if you insist upon eating seperately, then I would do as a PP suggested of eating guickly before everyone else arrives – I am not sure how that would be any more enjoyable though than  sitting down and possibly have a couple people interupt a bite or two.

Post # 35
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

It’s rude. If it’s dinner time, most people will be eating. And since you’re having a sit down meal, everyone will be served at the same time. As long as YOU take the time to sit down and eat as well, you should be fine. Would you think that it’s okay to eat apart from your guests at any other party? If you went to a dinner party and the hosts ate in another room, wouldn’t you find it a bit rude? I wouldn’t do it.

Post # 36
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I would be put off by this as well….BUT, my wedding was last weekend and I can honestly say, it was REALLY annoying how many people came up to our sweetheart table during dinner.  I literally did not eat more than 2 bites uninterrupted.  Between people congratulating you, and clinking their glasses for you to kiss (which I actually find really annoying as well)….I started to get really cranky about it.  It didn’t help that I’m pregnant and already cranky lol

Post # 37
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

i think in theory it sounds rude, but mostly just because as PPs noted, these are your guests and they are there for you.

FWIW, i wouldnt care at all. i dont think i would even notice if you slipped out during dinner. i always assume the bride and groom are off mingling at tables during dinner and i dont keep tabs on them every moment of the meal. if i did notice, i wouldnt be offended at all… but i am less bothered by that kind of stuff than it seems many people on the bee are.

so really, it all depends on your guests and how they react to issues concerning etiquette.

Post # 38
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’d be put off by it as a guest, but it’s your wedding so you can do whatever you want.  I’ve never seen anyone with a sweetheart table have issues of not being able to eat due to guests bugging them – during dinner the guests are also eating.

Post # 39
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Ms.Meghann:  but in my opinion, you can’t invite people for dinner, then peace out because you would rather not be bothered by guests who took time out of their bust schedules to be with you and celebrate.



^^ This.  OP, I agree with PPs.  I get that you want, you know, be able to eat, but I would think it very rude of the B&G to ditch the guests during dinner because you didn’t want them to bother you – they came to celebrate with you!

Post # 40
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Agreed, I think it’s kind of rude.  I cant wait to be “bothered” by all my guests who are excited for us and our big day.

Post # 41
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’m another person who would find this odd, off-putting, and a bit rude.  If people do come up to you while you eat and you want to chow down, just smile and say “I hope you don’t mind if I eat while you are here – we only get a few minutes and I am starving!”  I’d find that, and the following nomming, MUCH less rude than having you two go off to a private dinner. 

Post # 43
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I think it’s rude to eat elsewhere. Guests will SURELY wonder where the bride and groom have gone for 20 or 30 mins!! I also think it’s weird that your caterer wouldn’t give you a doggie bag. My vendor gave us ALL the leftovers and also made a take home midnight snack for hubby and me.

Post # 44
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

It is rude as hell. Missing a part of one meal won’t kill you nor will having to pause to talk during a salad. I’d suck it up and be in the same room as your guests and not do anything to discourage them from talkng to you. They are spending their time and money to celebrate with you, don’t treat them like they need to stand behind the velvet ropes. 

Post # 46
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I agree that it’s a little odd to leave for dinner… can you do a receiving line so that people aren’t compelled to come up and talk to you??

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