(Closed) Having a (real) panic attack and need some sense talked into me.

posted 5 years ago in December 2012
Post # 5
Member
4327 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

You actually have a lot more done than you realize. And by the way: who are you benchmarking yourself against to be “behind?”  I don’t think you’re in bad shape at all!

First: Order that list into priorities of what you think needs to be done first.

Also: If you give a baseline on what the cost of gifts are, bees are pretty good about helping you think those things through. Ask, and you shall receive. We’ll suggest good bridal party gifts.

If you’ve got your officiant, ask him / her to send you samples of script that convey the tone you want your ceremony to have.

I think you’re getting ahead of yourself by panicking. All the big stuff is done, from here on out, It’s cake.

Post # 6
Hostess
3381 posts
Sugar bee

Look at all the things that are done!  Venue, check.  Caterer, check.  Plenty of people plan their whole wedding in a few months, you can easily finish the things you have left 🙂

Try not to look at it as a big picture but rather little milestones you have to reach.  Invitations and registry seem the most pressing because they need to go out six weeks before your date.  If you don’t want to do a registry, don’t – there’s no point registering for stuff you don’t want just to appease other people.  If you do, then spend the day doing it as a couple, “date-style”.  

Try to get the invitations ordered this week, then it’s one less thing to worry about!  It’s just one task.

Your shoes and jewelry/Bridesmaids shoes and jewelry.  Take a girly day out to take the strain off and make it fun!  Same with the flowers, have a day with mum and make some firm decisions. Doesn’t have to be this week.

Tux, stop bugging him.  Tell him he needs to sort it out by X date.  And if he doesn’t he’ll have nothing to wear.  You sound stressed, you don’t need his poor organisation making it worse.

Music – you sound like you’re limiting yourself, maybe reconsider?

Anyway, my point is, all the tasks are doable.  Try to do one or two a week and it’ll be done in no time 🙂

And order your cupcakes – don’t want to forget those! 🙂

Post # 7
Member
9 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: December 2012

And remember to breathe! Ask your bridesmaids to help or girlfriends to chip in and take smaller tasks so you don’t feel so overwhelmed. When people offer to help, take them up on it! You aren’t alone in this process (I have to tell myself that daily!)

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