(Closed) Having a really rough parenting day. Could use some cheering up.

posted 6 years ago in Parenting
Post # 3
305 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@Quietserenity:  I am sure you are not screwing everything up!!   Every baby develops at his/her own rates, and it sounds like she is doing just fine.  I am sure you are exchausted and trying your best to keep up.  Don’t get down on yourself, just look at these 9 more weeks as time to spend just Mom/daughter before the new LO arrives.  I am sure she is having a ball with the dog, and cat!  Take everyday as it comes, I am sure you are doing great.

Post # 4
1576 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Is the kid clothed, fed, loved and housed in a safe environment? Then you’re doing a great job. You can’t control the doctor’s expectations or your kid meeting them or projectile vomit. Just focus on what you can control on days like these. If thoe first 4 needs are met – it’s a sucessful day. 🙂


Sorry Darling Husband is missing some milestones. I always read “Polar Express” to my sisters at midnight on Christmas Eve. Dirty Delete will be asleep – but maybe just for fun you and Darling Husband can start a midnight tradition. Know that one day the whole family will be included. 



Post # 5
4150 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’m not a parent (but hope to be soon) but I just wanted to stop in and say that you’re not doing anything wrong, you’re doing a great job.  Like a PP said, your baby is fed, clean, healthy and clothed.  She’s doing great!  Each baby hits milestones at a different pace.  While she may be one of the later ones to stand, who knows, she may take off walking shortly thereafter, ahead of schedule.  You’re doing a great job.  Congratulations on a healthy 9 month little one and the baby on the way.

Post # 6
7683 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Quietserenity:  I have 3 kids. I’m pretty sure they weren’t saying “mama” or “dada” at 9 months. As for standing: some kids do, some don’t. My first child wasn’t even crawling at 9 months. Where is she now? She came top of her school and is now getting brilliant grades at University.

Your doctor is an insensitive clod for being “less than thrilled” because she’s not ahead on milestones. Because it’s perfectly fine to hit them slightly slower than average (so long as it’s not way behind average). That’s the sort of behaviour I’d expect from a competitive friend, not a doctor.

Post # 7
419 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

sounds like you could use a little help. maybe your husband could use a few vacation or PTO days and stay home to help entertain your 9 month old so you can catch a break. if he cant i’d call a friend or neighbor over to help. i know when i’ve been over-mommying i need just like a 2 hour break for myself to go get my nails done or just to go get a coffee and drink it in the car alone. 

also, i think you need a new Dr.

Post # 8
1245 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@Lovemyfuturehub:  This. In pre school, my son was labeled developmentally disabled, and would need to have an IEP (individualized education plan.) I was heartbroken, for they didn’t see the brilliant little guy I did. As of now, he is a 3.91 student in college. Good things come to those who wait:)

Post # 9
2400 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@Quietserenity:  “Then, she had her 9 month visit today, and her doctor was less than thrilled that she’s not saying “mama” or “dada” or pulling herself up to standing.”

Umm my Dirty Delete didn’t say those words till like 1 years old. The doctor told me the same thing. I laughed and said she’s just quiet. Now she is almost two and talking non stop! lol It’ll come. Some kids are just quiet.

If she is happy, well fed, clean and safe enviorment you are doing great! It sounds like you need a break. I am sorry it is rough right now. Hang in there.



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