(Closed) Having a small wedding, but should I exclude people from the Bachelorette party?

posted 8 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
11325 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

I would say do NOT invite them to the bachelorette if you can’t invite them to the wedding. I might say it was okay if you were really having a “small” wedding (like less than 50, only family) because that’d be a special circumstance everyone would probably understand. But 150 is really smack dab in the middle of average so I think that people might be a little insulted if you invited them to the bachelorette but not the wedding. 

Post # 4
6015 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

I’ve actually been on a bachelorette party and I wasn’t invited to the wedding.  They had a small wedding and couldn’t invite everyone.  It was a great time!!   Just knew upfront we weren’t going to the wedding but it was a fun night out.  We went out to dinner and then out to the bars with her little list of things to do.  If you explain the issue and invite them … the ball is in their court whether they want to go or not!


Post # 5
153 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

150 people isn’t a small wedding in my opinion, but if you are inviting someone to your bachlorette party they should be invited to your wedding. If they are not important enough to share in your wedding day, I don’t think you should invite them to your bachlorette party.

Post # 6
751 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I had a few friends who weren’t invited to the wedding (and knew it) that ASKED me if they could come to my bachelorette.  They just wanted to be a part of the celebration in some way and it was a great way to include them.  I know most of the ladies will disagree with me, but you know your people so use your best judgement and be honest with them about the situation.  Bachelorettes, In My Humble Opinion, are different than showers because it’s a PARTY, it’s not like you are asking them for gifts, you just want to them come out and have some drinks and a good time.  Who doesn’t like that? 

Post # 7
45 posts
  • Wedding: May 2011

If your coworkers are friends too, I say just go have fun, a night out on the town to celebrate, but don’t call it a bachelorette party. 

Post # 8
2154 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

If you’re not close enough to invite them to the wedding, why do you want them at the bachelorette anyway?

Post # 9
2538 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

Etiquette definitely says no…but…

I would want to go if I was a coworker even if I wasn’t invited.  But I think it needs to be really clear ahead of time.  It’s pretty awkward so I don’t know if it could really work. Maybe another close coworker friend could mention it?  Also…it would have to be something where they didn’t feel a need to contribute much.

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