(Closed) Having a (totally unwarranted) freakout, bees. Need support.

posted 6 years ago in Interfaith
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

i’m sure he is just going with her because she asked.  and if he does want to go more often, there’s no need for you to go with him if you aren’t comfortable.  my Fiance has a huge aversion to organized religiom because his mom forced it upon him. i, on the othef hand, always loved going and hope to find a church that suits me again and take our future kids to sunday school. Fiance will not go with me, but that’s okay.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Has he ever made any comments that make you think he would look down on your religious choices or make you want to change them? If yes, then I can see how that could be a big problem. But if not, what about his choices bothers you so much? Is it the wedding ceremony or beyond that? What about it would bother you if he chose to practice his religion?

I personally think that as long as he understands that it’s not something you’d want to do together, it really shouldn’t be something that affects you. It’s not like you’re going around preaching to each other, right?

Post # 5
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Bumble bee

I wouldn’t worry about it as long as he doesn’t try to impose his beliefs on you. He could just be going because his mom wants him to. I wouldn’t read into this too much. Surely if he’s your Fiance you’d know if he was “practicing” or not by now.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Just support him. He’s not asking you to go to church too or trying to convert you. There’s no boundries being crossed where he’s pushing his faith upon you. You can always ask him if he’s interested in going to Mass more with his mom. It’ might not be just about church, but also about spending time with his mom and/or socializing with people he may know there. 

Post # 7
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Busy bee

Sorry that you’re going through such a rough time. If you don’t mind my asking, why are you so terrified of him becoming a practicing Catholic? I realize that it is a different religion that you, which can definitely be a struggle to juggle, especially if you two decide to have kids

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

@wildflowerbee:  She was raised protestant but is agnostic, so it isn’t just a different denomination but a totally different belief. I’m an atheist and if my husband suddenly “found god” I would be seriously questioning our future.

OP, he’s probably just going to show face for his mum; I do the same at synagogue for mine once or twice a year (she’s a practicing Jew and openly agnostic).

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@SpecialSundae:  Same here.

OP, I would definitly talk to him to see whether or not he’s going just to spend more time with famiy (like PPs have suggested) or if it’s more and then go from there.  Is he also a nonbeliever or just not practicing like you’ve mentioned?

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

What do you fear might happen if he became a practicing Catholic?

Post # 12
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Wannabee

If any bees could offer advice or support I would be so thankful.

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