(Closed) Having a wedding after being married for 5 years

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
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Buzzing Beekeeper

It would be a vow renewal. You can do pretty much anything as a regular wedding except a registry. Your father can walk with you if you want.

Post # 3
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Buzzing bee

YOU CAN DO WHATEVER THE HECK YOU WANT!! there are no rules, this is your life and you need to make yourself happy! Don’t listen to anyone saying “you can’t do ____” because YES YOU CAN! You’ve been waiting 5 years for this wedding celebration and you deserve to have everything you want, ask your father if he’d like to walk you down the aisle (I bet you he’ll be thrilled!)

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee

DO WHAT YOU WANT, WHAT YOU’D LOVE TO DO, AND WHAT SERVES YOU AND YOUR LOVED ONES BEST!!!!!!!

Enjoy every second of Bride-ness, INCLUDING “The WALK”!

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

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tiffhope: just call it a vow renewal. Skipping the registry is good, as well as bridal showers and bachelorette (since that ship has sailed years ago)

if you want to have time with your girls, have a tea or luncheon and do a ladies’ night. 

Post # 6
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Bumble bee

Call it a vow renewal, because that is what it’ll be.  Enjoy!

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

My husband and I are doing the same thing, but it is considered a vow renewal. we had to go to the courthouse when we got married for money reasons so this time we have been saving, we are getting no help from family so we are on a tight budget. But I’ll be damned if anyone tells me what I can and can’t have that day because it will be paid for by us so it’s going to be how we want it! You do what makes you happy because you don’t want to regret anything later!

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

agree vow renewal with no gifts . Otherwise its your day that you never really had so go for it!

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

You’ll be having a vow renewal, not a wedding.

It seems silly and tacky for your dad to “give you away”–that ship sailed a long time ago. You already belong to your husband now and he to you. The symbolism is all wrong if you have you dad walk you down the aisle. Why don’t you and your husband walk down the aisle together? Or maybe you could walk alone toward your husband and meet him there? I wouldn’t have your dad walk you down–you’ve been married for five years already.

Other than that, anything goes! Do whatever you want as long as you specify that it’s a vow renewal on your invites and you don’t accept gifts, showers, or bachelor/bachelorette parties. Have a blast!

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: Church

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tiffhope:  It’s your special day, enjoy it to the fullness 🙂

Post # 12
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

Another option might be to have your DH walk with you for a few feet and present you to your dad, who would then walk you down the aisle and present you to your DH again. I kind of like the symbolism in that, because it would acknowledge your DH’s presence in your life for the past five years but also allows your father and you to have that special moment of him walking you down the aisle.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee

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tiffhope:  Do whatever your heart desires, bee!!! I agree with the no-registry thing… but otherwise it’s completely your choice…

then again, I think you definitely need to post some pics of your dress, shoes, flowers, etc 🙂 I don’t think you should plan anything without your fellow bees giving you lots of input on your choices. Otherwise, it’d just be wrong. 🙂 (Man, I am on a roll today!) I would love to see how you put this together. How exciting! congrats to you and your dh.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee

DO WHAT YOU WANT! Call it a WEDDING, call it a CONFIRMATION, call it JOHN SMITH, call it WHATEVER FILLS YOU AND YOUR DEAR ONES WITH JOY.

What CHUTZPAH that some perfect person should tell you what to call YOUR EVENT, or tell you that your father (or your mother or your great aunt Clara OR THE DOG) shouldn’t “give you away”.

LIFE IS MUCH TOO SHORT to worry about “silly and tacky”.

If someone in your Social Circle (LOL) finds your event “offensive to their sensibilities” they can feel free to leave before the dinner is served.

Make yourself and your loved ones happy and forget everything but THAT!

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

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tiffhope:  thats so sweet of him!

I would do whatever you want! this is your moment and you waited a long time for it!

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