Having a wedding where you're from vs where you live now

posted 2 years ago in Venue
Post # 2
9216 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

how many people would have to travel to either destination?  does the smaller town have enough hotels to accomodate those traveling?

Post # 4
1902 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

beeutiful321 :  We went to a wedding a few years ago for FI’s cousin. She and her Fiance had moved to MT, and 98% guests were back where she grew up in MN. They held the wedding in MN because the fewest people needed to travel. Wedding may have been cheaper for her in MT, but it was more convenient in MN for her guests.

Post # 5
665 posts
Busy bee

beeutiful321 :  Go with the dad’s choice bc it will be easier for him to help where he lives plus it will be cheaper for everyone.

Post # 6
6665 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

beeutiful321 :  If the majority of the guest list would have to travel by having it in the hometown, I’d pick St. Louis… unless staying overnight in SL is even more expensive than traveling to hometown would be.  I feel like if SL and hometown are less than 2 hours apart, plenty of vendors your dad knows could still be used.  We had someone come from a good 5 hours away!

Post # 7
1638 posts
Bumble bee

Sort of depends on the price differential and how inconvenient it would be for guests. Hard to say without knowing how much cheaper if would be and your finances. 

If you make 60K a year and the cost difference is $10K I’d bite, vs I’d you earn 200K a year and the cost difference is $5K, etc. 

Post # 8
36 posts
  • Wedding: April 2018

I would say go where the least amount of people have to travel

Post # 9
2 posts
  • Wedding: October 2017

beeutiful321 :  As someone planning a wedding from afar, I vote for doing it where you live. BUT if your dad has the motivation to do most of the meeting with vendors and sorting out options legwork, as well as the connections, then I vote for your hometown. Just know it’s always harder planning from afar unless someone on the ground is taking care of all that for you. 

Post # 10
255 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

Im planning mine from afar, about 90% of our guest list lives there so it makes more sense. However, like another poster said its really hard and annoying unless you can do a lot of the planning from afar or have someone there. My mom had to meet with the florist, then we have to travel back to do our cake tasting, menu tasting and finalize plans. We were going to do it where my fiance and I live, however majority of our guest list wouldn’t be able to travel due to cost…and we are paying for it ourselves with no financial help. Do what is best for you and your fiance especially if your dad said he will pay either way! 

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