Post # 1
So I am originally from a smaller town about 120 miles south of where I live now. My fiancé really wants to have the wedding where we currently live (St. Louis). My dad is paying for the wedding and has expressed interest in us having it in my hometown. It would be cheaper, plus my dad is in the wedding industry and knows all of the vendors there. My dad has also said it’s our day so we can pick where we want. I do not care either way. I would be happy in either place. My dad is the best dad and rarely has a strong opinion about any of my decisions. I want to respect my dad and his money, as well as my fiancé’s wishes. What should I do? I feel so torn.
Post # 2
how many people would have to travel to either destination? does the smaller town have enough hotels to accomodate those traveling?
Post # 3
About 3/4 of the guests would have to travel about an hour and 45 mins of we had it in my smaller hometown. Yes, there are lots of hotel options as well.
Post # 4
beeutiful321 : We went to a wedding a few years ago for FI’s cousin. She and her Fiance had moved to MT, and 98% guests were back where she grew up in MN. They held the wedding in MN because the fewest people needed to travel. Wedding may have been cheaper for her in MT, but it was more convenient in MN for her guests.
Post # 5
beeutiful321 : Go with the dad’s choice bc it will be easier for him to help where he lives plus it will be cheaper for everyone.
Post # 6
beeutiful321 : If the majority of the guest list would have to travel by having it in the hometown, I’d pick St. Louis… unless staying overnight in SL is even more expensive than traveling to hometown would be. I feel like if SL and hometown are less than 2 hours apart, plenty of vendors your dad knows could still be used. We had someone come from a good 5 hours away!
Post # 7
Sort of depends on the price differential and how inconvenient it would be for guests. Hard to say without knowing how much cheaper if would be and your finances.
If you make 60K a year and the cost difference is $10K I’d bite, vs I’d you earn 200K a year and the cost difference is $5K, etc.
Post # 8
I would say go where the least amount of people have to travel
Post # 9
beeutiful321 : As someone planning a wedding from afar, I vote for doing it where you live. BUT if your dad has the motivation to do most of the meeting with vendors and sorting out options legwork, as well as the connections, then I vote for your hometown. Just know it’s always harder planning from afar unless someone on the ground is taking care of all that for you.
Post # 10
Im planning mine from afar, about 90% of our guest list lives there so it makes more sense. However, like another poster said its really hard and annoying unless you can do a lot of the planning from afar or have someone there. My mom had to meet with the florist, then we have to travel back to do our cake tasting, menu tasting and finalize plans. We were going to do it where my fiance and I live, however majority of our guest list wouldn’t be able to travel due to cost…and we are paying for it ourselves with no financial help. Do what is best for you and your fiance especially if your dad said he will pay either way!