- 5 years ago
- Wedding: March 2013
If anyone could give me any advice/ insights I would really appreicate it.
Lately we have arguments all. the. time. It’s getting exhausting.
We are happy one minute and then starts arguing.
We both have different things to say towards each other. In my eyes he annoys the crap outa me for being uncooperative in the household and other things that we’re supposed to do but he could care less about. I end up nagging him to get him to do things. By the time he does things I am already slightly pissed. I always try to give him headsup in advance so there’s room for some delay. But then almost everything gets pushed back and end up last minutes all the time. I am annoyed by the time he does things finally.
He on the other hand gets annoyed at me for making a big deal out of small things and for my tone of voice. He says he doesn’t feel like doing any of it because of my behavior. He says my behavior is making him not want to do things. In his eyes I’m rude and not fun to be around. Well I agree somewhat, I am annoyed, how can I be sweet and happy.
Well to me if he is more cooperative in the first place I would be happier and more upbeat.
He accuses me of being grumpy all the time but he is also not particularly awesome to be around. He doesn’t seem to get it. Recently he complains and whines when we are out and about. Complains that the place is too far, it takes too long, blah blah. Really annoying. AND he tells me he works long hours and is under lot of pressure. I understand that and I realize that I should cut him some slack and I do. But he can’t make the same excuses and get away with everything.
I feel like I’m building resentment, and he may be too. My problem is his uncooperative-ness and that I feel like I have no reason to put up with his comlaining and whining when he has to do things or for no reason.
I understand we are both contributing to this rut and both need to fix some things but I can’t see what issues should be addressed. There are many small things. I can’t see the bigger picture and I don’t know how we can go about smoothing out.