Post # 1
We will be having a lot of out of town guests who are some of my closest friend and all have small children and we are inviting them to the wedding. We’ll have at least 10 kids 5 yrs old or younger. My Fiance thinks we should hire a “babysitter” to be at the reception to watch the kids so our friends don’t have to worry about them and can have fun.
I have never heard of anyone doing this so I wanted to see if anyone has heard of this before or if not just get some thoughts.
Post # 3
I have heard of having a babysitter and putting all the kids in a hotel room- so they aren’t at the reception.
but my biggest thing is having someone you trust……. I wouldn’t want something to go wrong with an internet classified babysitter kinda deal. Unless you guys have a trusted neighbor or family member, in which case it could be okay. but its kind of hard to keep the kids from running back to their parents and such.
Post # 4
We had approximately 30 kids at our wedding, the majority of whom were 6 or younger. We didn’t hire a babysitter and honestly, it wouldn’t have been necessary had we had one. We had an extra table set up towards the back and had a bunch of activities on it – coloring sheets, crayons, paint with water, little games, glitter paintings, and some puzzles. The kids loved it during cocktail hour and just after dinner. Once the dancing started, the kids were out there on the dance floor with everyone else and were so darn cute.
Even if you have a babysitter, the parents are still not going to be responsibility free as the babysitter won’t know the kids and will be reliant on the parents if anything comes up. Your friends will know whether or not they want their kids at the wedding – if they don’t want the responsibility of watching them, they’ll sort out other arrangements for their children whilst they attend the wedding. It’s not your responsibility. It is very sweet that you’re thinking of this though.
Post # 5
We had two nannies watching the younger children at our wedding in a room just off the ballroom so the parents could pop in if they wanted. Like you, most of our guests were Out of Town and we wanted them to be able to enjoy the night sans kids after dinner was served, if they wished. Prior to the wedding, I contacted all guests with young children (12 and under) and asked if this was something they would be comfortable with…all of them said yes. The nannies asked for a list of the children’s names, ages, and allergies and who was not pottytrained (for the youngest of course!). I just emailed all the parents for this information. We put together kids activity packs as well as arts and crafts, books, snacks, etc. The hotel was great and set up the room for the children with a TV and Wii. The children had a blast, and most of them stayed in the room. We also had a ping-pong table outside the ballroom for the adults, but the kids enjoyed a game or two as well!
We used an agency, who does criminal background checks and requires first aid…they came highly recommended from a coworker. We had an open bar and our reception went until 12am, so for us it was well worth it and the kids had a blast together.
Post # 6
@Ree723 – I was also thinking of having an activity table set up for the kids. I think that is a really good idea.
@vaness13181 – Thanks…I’m glad to hear someone who’s actual hired a nanny to be at the wedding. I think I may ask my friends what they think and if they’d be comfortable with it.
I hadn’t even considered doing something like this, but we were at a party this weekend with a lot of small kids and I noticed most of the parents were either totally ignoring their kids and they were out of control or keeping an eye on their kids which took away from them enjoying the party.
Post # 7
We are having a ton of kids at our reception as well. The majority under the age of 10. I teach dance and nanny, all kids related fields so of course some smaller guests will be there.
I am planning on utilizing my daughter’s friends who will be 14 at the time(maybe you could use an older cousin?). They will have a list of the kids, ages, and a pic. At the ceremony they will introduce themselves to any kids so at the reception they won’t be scared of the “stranger.” Standard kids table with crafts, coloring and a plated meal. I am not paying $150 for a 5 year old to eat rice and chicken or plain noodles at our awesome stations! The kids will hang out there with the girls and after our first dance I am doing a “kid’s dance” since I do work with kids and they will all come up, than we will do an everyone dance so their parents will come up and that is when my daughter’s friend’s will be relieved of their duties and can go party themselves! Whew. That’s a doozy.
And I plan on including a note in the families with kids invites’ that the kids will be sitting separate from them during the meal, etc. Just so they can prepare the kids for this. I want the adults to enjoy themselves too!
But the best plan is to have one. Just that your planning for the kids is better than nothing!
Post # 8
I am setting up a kid’s corner at our wedding, and have a very reliable sitter (she is the only babysitter my Future Sister-In-Law trusts with her kids) running that area. I’ve already talked to her about it. I am not keeping the kids off the dance floor or forbidding them to take part in the wedding and reception, but I am providing them with an area where they can do crafts and color and play games and hopefully, let their parents enjoy the reception without worrying about their childrens needs for the day. I am figuring around a dozen kids will be there between the ages of 2 and 10.
Post # 9
We could have as many as 12 kids under the age of 5 at our reception. I hired two girls who are friends to watch the kids in a room just off of the ball room. I am paying them for both the reception and the ceremony, a total of 7 hours. I figured after that, most of the people with kids will be gone. I am paying them $75 each, and feeding them dinner. I have no idea if they will be needed or not, but just having them there in case makes me feel prepared. Either way they get to keep the money, and to a 13 year old, that’s a good deal.
Post # 10
This is really a great idea. I attended a wedding where this was done and it worked out great. However, Its good to would hire at least 2 people for 10 kids, especially for young kids, This was put in the invitations.