Post # 1
Hi Bees! For the past few months as the wedding gets closer I have been having the worst nightmares about my fiance’ cheating. He has given me no reason to ever doubt him or feel that he is cheating, and I definitely feel that he is loyal. My dreams are always different…sometimes he is cheating on me with an acquaintance, sometimes a good friend, etc.
Now for some backstory: I was engaged years ago to a man who I later found out (after I ended the engagement) that he was cheating on me with several different females including a coworker, his ex, and worst of all, my best friend. I’m wondering if this is why I am having bad dreams about this and that it is not my gut telling me something.
Any other bee’s go through this?
Post # 3
@Legallyblondiebride: I went through the same thing as you… I had an ex Fiance who cheated on me too and I still have bad dreams about being cheated on. I had dreams about my ex cheating on me too though before I ever found out so I may just be super paranoid. I hope you feel better it happens to a lot of us for no real reason so don’t over think it… it could have even been from something you saw on TV before you went to bed.
Post # 4
My Darling Husband has nightmares about ME cheating all the time and I can guarantee they are not based on reality at all, lol! I think the reason he has them stems from when we first started dating, he knew I had just started dating someone else when he asked me out on our first date and I intentionally kept him in the dark in order to remain mysterious for about the first month, even though I broke it off with the other guy right away. It is one of the main reasons our relationship developed so quickly, because he felt a sense of urgency to win me over, but also unfortunately I don’t think he has been able to completely get over that feeling of paranoia from those first few weeks.
Over time the nightmares have gotten less and less frequent and now it’s pretty rare. But in the beginning of our relationship they were almost every night!
Post # 5
I sometimes have dreams about my SO cheating on me. I think it is a random thing though because I have never been cheated on. We don’t have a ton of control over what we dream.
Post # 6
Im sorry that your having bad dreams, it totally sucks :(. Ive had my share of bad dreams myself as well.. and even though my Fiance is loyal to me and everything sometimes a past experience can start crawling bck up innto this relationship and bring fear to me. My ex basically ‘ left ” me with out really letting me know.. just gave me a call so I can congratulate him on his new gf ( WHAT!) lol so I understand how it hurts and all but did you know that our subconsious mind NEVER sleeps. With that in mind, they tell you the best tim you ever want something ( motivation, happiness, to condition your mind etc etc ) is to do it when yur about to sleep cuz your so tired, its sort of like a hypnosis moment.. So you could be thinking to much about how yoru worried about your Fiance doing the same thing as your ex while your falling asleep and thts whats causing your nightmares. Lately Ive been having these littl images about having continous fights with my Fiance right b4 bed and now we are having a little struggle so Ive been trying to condition my subconcious mind to happier thoughts and memories. Anyway what Im trying to say is, Before you go to sleep think of happy memories, or make up your own happy moments with your FI- and do it for a few days not just once and Im sure youll feel and see a little difference in your dreams hopefully (:
Post # 7
I had nightmares like that when Darling Husband and I were dating in a LDR. They went away after a while, and only seem to show up when I’m stressing about something to do with us… just don’t let them get in the way of real life! My husband thinks that it’s hilarious that his “dream self” is so bad when he’s so good IRL.