(Closed) having bridesmaids be responsible for their own hair/makeup

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
2496 posts
Buzzing bee

@msroth:  Let them know that you’re willing to provide tips/tutorials beforehand. You can also send them YouTube tutorial links to guide them. It’s totally not unusual to ask BMs be responsible for their own hair and makeup. Just tell them what the cost of hair/makeup is, and provide them with information on a nearby salon if they’re not comfortable DIY-ing it.

One concern I have for you is that you probably won’t have time to help your girls get ready on the big day. Plus, the focus really should be on you, given that getting married is (hopefully) a once in a lifetime experience.

Post # 4
11231 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

In the US, it’s expected of bridesmaids to take care of their own hair and makeup unless otherwise stated, so they should already know that that’s an expense they have to cover or do it themselves. If there’s way that you communicate with all of them (email, Facebook message or group), just post something about you doing your own hair and makeup and ask if anyone wants help with theirs?

Post # 5
183 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

If you are doing your own hair and make-up, they should definitely be willing to do their own! Also, I agree with the above comment saying you should just send out a message beforehand about getting ready. Maybe you can all meet to get ready beforehand and everyone can help everyone. The only issue with not getting it professionally done, is that the people will be in your photos forever (no matter how bad their hair/ make-up looks, lol) If you can be there to kind of check out everyone else as they’re getting ready, I think you’ll be good! Good luck! PS, I made an initial $300 payment to book a hair and make-up group, and just got a letter in the mail for the rest of the balance (which is due 1 month before the wedding)… $1,700 for 7 bridesmaids, 2 flower girls, and 2 moms. lol Prices are crazy!

Post # 7
7309 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

Maybe suggest to your Maid/Matron of Honor that a hair and make-up tutorial class would be a fun bachelorette part idea? That way everyone can learn some new tips and tricks in a fun atmosphere.

Post # 8
3367 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Youtube tutorials for the win! Since we’re getting married on the beach, I’m not asking the girls to have fancy updos. I’m just going to have everyone curl their hair and I’m going to help with makeup. 

It would be $110/Bridesmaid for me to have the girls’ done and as much as I’d LOVE to pay that, I’m already paying $600 for my hair and makeup because of travel fees.

I don’t think there’s anything wrong with DIY hair and makeup, and heck it’ll be fun to have everyone help each other get ready!

Post # 9
3092 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I wouldn’t do anything other than talk to the ladies frankly about it.  I don’t know why you would have to pay for their hair and makeup.  No one is paying for yours LOL.  If you’re not asking anything to be produced then I don’t think anyone will think twice.  If you said, hey I need you to have this very specific fabulous updo and falsies lashes…then maybe they’d raise an eyebrow 🙂

Post # 10
8683 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

There’s nothing wrong with not ppaying for hair or makeup. HOWEVER, I feel that u cant request they look a certain way other than to wear the dresses you picked. 

Post # 11
4654 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I’m doing the same thing — DIYing my own hair and makeup and letting them do as they please. I’m not super confident in my own abilities but I have several months to practice! I don’t really care what they do with their hair or makeup to be honest, as long as they feel good. They could roll out of bed and do nothing and it wouldn’t bother me… so I don’t feel bad putting the ball in their court. 😀

Post # 12
92 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Have a pre-wedding pow wow where you all do hair and make up! That way you can do yours and offer help to your girls if they need it. That way you are saying that you do not expect them to pay for it, however providing them with an option to get their hair done else where if they want!

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