Post # 1
I really cannot afford to pay for hair/makeup for all my bridesmaids since of the location in CA it is pretty expensive (it would be about $100+ per person).
I am actually DIYing my own hair and makeup (very confident in my skills). I did my own hair/makeup for our engagment pics which i should be getting back soon and i will post for everyone to see. I unfortunatel did not take any pics beforehand :[ bummer.
My question is how do i go about telling them they will be responsible for this? I mean i am TOTALLY willing to work with them on planning and teaching them how to do stuff if they do not feel comfortable but i am pretty sure they are more than comfortable. I just honestly feel bad that i cannot do that for them. I am not requesting a certain “look” for them or making them all have their hair up/down etc. But i also do not want them to look bad either. I would feel comfortable doing their makeup no problem or helping them.
hmmm i have NO IDEA what to do!!!
Post # 3
@msroth: Let them know that you’re willing to provide tips/tutorials beforehand. You can also send them YouTube tutorial links to guide them. It’s totally not unusual to ask BMs be responsible for their own hair and makeup. Just tell them what the cost of hair/makeup is, and provide them with information on a nearby salon if they’re not comfortable DIY-ing it.
One concern I have for you is that you probably won’t have time to help your girls get ready on the big day. Plus, the focus really should be on you, given that getting married is (hopefully) a once in a lifetime experience.
Post # 4
In the US, it’s expected of bridesmaids to take care of their own hair and makeup unless otherwise stated, so they should already know that that’s an expense they have to cover or do it themselves. If there’s way that you communicate with all of them (email, Facebook message or group), just post something about you doing your own hair and makeup and ask if anyone wants help with theirs?
Post # 5
If you are doing your own hair and make-up, they should definitely be willing to do their own! Also, I agree with the above comment saying you should just send out a message beforehand about getting ready. Maybe you can all meet to get ready beforehand and everyone can help everyone. The only issue with not getting it professionally done, is that the people will be in your photos forever (no matter how bad their hair/ make-up looks, lol) If you can be there to kind of check out everyone else as they’re getting ready, I think you’ll be good! Good luck! PS, I made an initial $300 payment to book a hair and make-up group, and just got a letter in the mail for the rest of the balance (which is due 1 month before the wedding)… $1,700 for 7 bridesmaids, 2 flower girls, and 2 moms. lol Prices are crazy!
Post # 6
thank you guys for the input! We already have a fb group for out wedding party so making a group just for the girls would probably work. I do want us all to get ready together before the wedding i am thinking on asking the if they would like help or such and letting them in on an affordable hair and makeup package that someone might be able to do at the location if they want to pay themselves. I was also thinking about including some makeup as a gift PRE-wedding gift haha.
Yeah the prices are outrageous and we need to save as much money as we can so we can buy furniture and such since we are planning on moving in together right before the wedding. ( his mom does not like the idea of us living together until we are married)
Post # 7
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
Maybe suggest to your Maid/Matron of Honor that a hair and make-up tutorial class would be a fun bachelorette part idea? That way everyone can learn some new tips and tricks in a fun atmosphere.
Post # 8
Youtube tutorials for the win! Since we’re getting married on the beach, I’m not asking the girls to have fancy updos. I’m just going to have everyone curl their hair and I’m going to help with makeup.
It would be $110/Bridesmaid for me to have the girls’ done and as much as I’d LOVE to pay that, I’m already paying $600 for my hair and makeup because of travel fees.
I don’t think there’s anything wrong with DIY hair and makeup, and heck it’ll be fun to have everyone help each other get ready!
Post # 9
I wouldn’t do anything other than talk to the ladies frankly about it. I don’t know why you would have to pay for their hair and makeup. No one is paying for yours LOL. If you’re not asking anything to be produced then I don’t think anyone will think twice. If you said, hey I need you to have this very specific fabulous updo and falsies lashes…then maybe they’d raise an eyebrow 🙂
Post # 10
There’s nothing wrong with not ppaying for hair or makeup. HOWEVER, I feel that u cant request they look a certain way other than to wear the dresses you picked.
Post # 11
I’m doing the same thing — DIYing my own hair and makeup and letting them do as they please. I’m not super confident in my own abilities but I have several months to practice! I don’t really care what they do with their hair or makeup to be honest, as long as they feel good. They could roll out of bed and do nothing and it wouldn’t bother me… so I don’t feel bad putting the ball in their court. 😀
Post # 12
Have a pre-wedding pow wow where you all do hair and make up! That way you can do yours and offer help to your girls if they need it. That way you are saying that you do not expect them to pay for it, however providing them with an option to get their hair done else where if they want!
Post # 13
i definitely did not want them to look a certain way at all one of my bridesmaids doesnt really wear makeup so that is kind of an odd situation. I really am not wanting to control the way that they look at all.
I do think youtube tutorials are a cute idea as well. All of my bridesmaids live out of town and we really are not going to be able to actually meet up much before the wedding if at all for some of them. I just want things to go smoothly with how the day will play out. haha big hopes there. 😛
My style or my fiancees for that matter is not really updo style either. We are a pretty fun laid back couple so i think you tube tutorials might be fun! :] Thank you.