(Closed) Having bridesmaids vote on dresses

posted 4 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
815 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

JBJ2017 :  i let my bridesmaid choose their dresses. I told them the color and the lenght and then they picked their own, obviously keeping in mind the overall theme. I think it’s weird if the bride makes the bridesmaids wear a specific dress. They are not paid models who have to wear what their client wants, but individuals with different taste and body shapes. 

Post # 3
12684 posts
Honey Beekeeper

The appropriate approach is to consult with your BMs up front on both style  and budget. 

Post # 4
819 posts
Busy bee

I did something similar- I picked two dresses, sent the bridesmaids pictures, and asked them to pick one. Two out of three picked one dress and the third said she liked both so that was that. Super easy, but maybe I got lucky with bridesmaids that just don’t really care what they wear as long as I didn’t pick anything ridiculous! 

ETA: I asked ahead of time if there was anything they wanted/needed; one girl requested no satin and one asked that I just keep her larger bust size in mind. 

Post # 5
69 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

I’m a people pleaser and have too many bridesmaids with too many opinions and personal styles and shapes. It was VERY hard to get them to agree on one dress and uniformity is important to me. At the point where it took 200% more effort to choose a dress for them than it did finding my OWN wedding dress, I said F it. 


I took two of my lovely ladies,’took them to a local Mori Lee shop with great customer service, tried on a few and I picked the one I liked the most. Told the girls my choice, the price and the color and everyone has been fine since 🙂 

no one complained at all 😬. They are way more excited for our weeklong Vegas trip lol. 

Post # 6
168 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

Intially, I sent a my bridesmaids a link to my pinterest board to look at some of the styles that we were considering. After that we went to DB but did not find any of the dresses to be flattering (extremely unhelpful consultant that was more interested in helping brides not bridesmaids). So I ended up just choosing an infinity style dress from etsy that would work for everyone’s different style and body types. My ladies were a bit apprehensive at first but liked the dress once they were able to try it on and style it. While the opinions of the bridesmaids should be considered, I think that ultimately the dress should be the bride’s choice (unless she chooses something extremely unflattering/revealing).

Post # 7
2655 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

I actually found my bridesmaid dresses accidentally – I wasn’t planning to look for them at the time and this ad randomly popped up on Facebook with the perfect dress in the photo. We paid for the dresses so didn’t need to discuss budget with my bridesmaids, but I had asked if they had any requests in terms of the style. I had 2 votes for something with straps (my bestie is bigger busted and my parents understandably felt strapless was inappropriate for my 13 year old sister). My other 2 bridesmaids said they prefered something with straps but would wear strapless if it was what I wanted. All 4 of my bridesmaids didn’t want something that was tight fitting. The dress I found is a-line with an illusion neckline. I showed them all the photo and asked for their opinion, they all said they liked it and the rest is history.

Post # 8
248 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2017 - Florida

I think before you go look on your own and fall in love with something, I’d ask the bridesmaids what they’re comfortable with price point, then feel free to look around and gather your thoughts. 

Post # 9
184 posts
Blushing bee

I chose two options for the dresses, and asked the girls to pick the one they’d like to wear. I have 3 girls wearing one option, 3 girls wearing the other. One of them was afraid the smallest size wasn’t going to fit her, so we looked at other options for her (even though she ended up picking one of my original choices).

I think your plan is a good one.  It still gives everyone a choice, but it’s always going to be something you’ve already approved. It makes everyone happy! (:

Post # 10
395 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

I only had an idea of color and went shopping with my bridesmaids. I wanted to keep it cheaper and let me bridesmaids pick out a dress they loved and felt good in. I didn’t care whether they were the same dress. It backfired big time. No one really was satisfied with the dresses. They actually told me that I gave them too much rope and they hung themselves. In the end, I chose three dresses, and let them vote. The most popular one won and they all ordered the dress, and were happy. 

So weird that I had to take control and that’s what made them feel better. I just want them to feel beautiful and I guess they just wanted more direction in dress selection.

Post # 11
505 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

I created a FB group for my BMs and we all have been contributing ideas to the group.  Once we have dresses that look like they work with all body types, I’ll let them vote.  

Post # 12
4891 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I only had 2 in my wedding party to stand on my side, and I let them choose their dress after I found the color I wanted to go with. They were Alfred Angelo, and just had to be long and in that color. I figured they could find something in the amount of dress options available that would flatter them best.

I’ve been a Bridesmaid or Best Man in one friends wedding, and we all wore the same dress. Was it flattering on everyone? Yes and No. They were nice, but I wish she would have let us pick whatever… this was also 7 years ago, so the times have changed.

Post # 13
470 posts
Helper bee

I did what you have planned. I went to DM with my mom, hung my dress up, and tried on basically every dress that matched my color. I knew my bridesmaids’ budgets, that they preferred short and A line, and had about 5 options that fit the style they wanted. I added two that I loved but knew they wouldn’t like the cut. Then, they came in and we picked from there. The consultant was great and had the dresses I selected pulled, and they only looked at those.

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