Having doubts about choosing my maid of honor.

posted 2 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 16
7666 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

Whats wrong with asking one of your bridesmaids to give a speech? Why does the speech giver have to be maid of honor? I just feel like you’re making this more complicated than you need to due to fairly arbitrary reasons. I mean if you really want a moh then just choose, but it sounds like there is no obvious candidate so you’re kinda trying to squeeze a round peg into a square hole here just for the sake of it. I had 5 bridesmaids and asked one of them, a really close friend who I knew would be comfortable with public speaking, to give the toast. All good. Another one did a reading during the ceremony. They all planned my bachelorette together. Dh only had 3 groomsmen (compared to my 5), and his brother was his best man. No one batted an eye at any of this!

Post # 17
624 posts
Busy bee

Easy fix, don’t have a MOH! When a friend of mine got married her husband didn’t pick a best man, instead all the guys were called “best men” instead of groomsmen. It was nice. 

Post # 18
1762 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

If you really want one maid of honor and it HAS to be one of these three, I’d personally pick A. Offer to shoulder some of her duties if she’s too busy to do some of them, but you have known her the longest, and honestly, one busy year shouldn’t discredit your long friendship. Plus, the fact she liked your fiance and encouraged your relationship is a HUGE deal (at least, it would be to me). 

For me, length of friendship is more important than whether or not she’ll be too busy to do some stuff, because I don’t mind doing everything myself. But every bride is different. 

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