(Closed) Having Dress Anxiety! (*long*)

posted 7 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Why dont’ you post some pics of you in it? that’s what I did. I had the same kinda thing. I went to 3 different stores and tried on about 28 different dresses…meanwhile most of my friends have been married before telling me they only tried on a couple of dresses before finding the one…so i felt silly at the idea of going on multiple shopping trips and told myself if I find something I can see myself getting married in and looks right on me..that’s it. that’s exactly what happend…at the 3rd store I found a dress that fit me so devinely…and I had everyone ooohing and aahhing as soon as I stepped out. I too am extremely curvy. The ballgowns did not do it for me whatsoever…plus Fiance wants to see me in something that shows my curves. I went home  with linger feelings of “did I look long enought?” “did I just pick this dress because I was scared I wouldnt’ find anything better?” “Was I pressured?” so many questions went through my head, but everytime I sit down and look at pictures of myself in it…I take myself back to how I felt in that dress. Amazing. Also, it helps to play by the rules, if you’ve picked your dress, STOP looking. Finding a dress is a big committment…harder than choosing a husband in some cases, lol. Just trust your instincts that you made the right choice from the start. If it helps, go back and put that dress on again.

Post # 4
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I think the dress is beautiful and not old-fashioned at all! The ruching adds a bit of a modern touch and the shape is sexy, while the straps and fabric choice are classy… I wouldn’t worry ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

@MamaMegs721:  The back is gorgeous!!  The whole dress is really beautiful!!  Post pics of you in it if you can, that could help us all give an opinion…but I do think you’re just second guessing yourself for nothing!!  I bet you look beautiful in the dress, and if you had that strong of a reaction to the dress, and no other dress felt like the Ella, then you have your decision right there!!  It is sometimes hard to stop shopping but trust that inner voice that sold you in the first place!  I went through dress regret, and ended up searching for months until I really found “the one”, but I have to tell you, I started having doubts about my original dress AS WE WERE PUTTING THE DEPOSIT DOWN.  Even after I got home I instantly started thinking about ways to severly modify the dress.  I should have listened to my instincts, but I thought the feelings would go away and that it was just nerves but they never did…they only got stronger.  I kept that dress for a YEAR before starting to look again because I just knew in my heart it wasn’t my dress.  The point of me telling you this is to show you the difference in a TRUE mistake (i.e. my case) and just normal dress anxiety (you!).  I can tell you right now, I did not feel about my original dress the way you feel about Ella…but I DID feel that way about my second dress choice!  Trust yourself! ๐Ÿ™‚  You will be beautiful.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@MamaMegs721: Oh it will…when it fits you right, you will get that vavavoom feeling. You have to trust your initial feelings especially when you know you have the curves to rock that dress. Yours dress is gorgeous and will look fantastic if you have the hips/behind to fill it out. I tried on every style, and some verrry similar to yours so I know what works on that body type…it was very hard to decide at first. Plus, yours is a corset back, which is awesome. I tried on some dresses with corsette backs…and they really help the dress fit you perfectly around the backside and middle. I am pretty much a sample size 10 plus a little extra….so I had to sqeeze my hips into most of those dresses, so i know how it is. Brides who are 100% sure are way too lucky. lol. I don’t see how anyone could be 100% sure about this kind of purchase. I’m glad I didn’t play it too safe with the old drop waist ball gowns..which wouldn’t have done my shape justice. If you have the curves, you can muster the confidence to rock a dress like that. You made the right choice in sillouette for sure.

Edit: also, I don’t have any ‘great’ pics of me in my dress either..they were all taken with cell phone cams…which makes me mad no one bothered to bring a decent camera like I asked! lol. I didn’t want to bring mine in case Fiance flipped through. I don’t think the pics I have do it justice at all, so yeah, be sure when you go back in November to get someone to take pics of you.

 

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I think your dress is gorgeous!  I LOVE the deep back!  Beautiful, beautiful choice!

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

OMG – that is the first time I have seen this dress posted…I HAVE tried it on before and I LOVED it! It is definitely sexy with the low back and is slim fitting. What is so hard to see unless you are in person is how amazing the lace is with the sparkles on, and the back of it is gorgeous! I was thinking of just the over-bustle and you would get to see all the details in the train still…

The salon wouldn’t let me take a photo and that may be why I got another dress – it was in another city so I couldn’t easily fly back to go take another look at it ๐Ÿ™‚ But I was pretty torn, the lace/sparkles/fabric/fit…it is a beautiful dress and I hope you post photos so I can see it on someone else!

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