- 4 years ago
- Wedding: February 2016
I need help! I have just recenty put down the deposit for my wedding dress and am now having a little bit of panic about whether i’ve made the right choice!
So the first time i went dress shopping, I had a pretty solid idea of the type of style that would look good on me. I’m usually pretty good at choosing things from pictures that will suit me but I was pretty wrong when it came to wedding dresses! I am 5 foot 2 and pretty curvy so i can easily be overwhelmed by a larger dress but at the same time need a bit of disguising on the ol’ hips and bum!
I had fallen in love with Maggie Sottero Esme online and thought it would be perfect for me but it ended up practically cutting me in half! For the rest of the session i tried on so many dresses and couldn’t find anything that would suit me and started getting a little upset. I was feeling so unhappy, literally on the brink of tears and everything felt so heavy and uncomfortable. It sounds so dramatic but i was thinking i’ll never find a dress that will suit me because im too big etc etc. Then i tried on the last dress that to be honest i put a tag on to try just because it was completely different.
As soon as i put it on i felt comfortable and light and (shock horror) a little bit pretty! It was totally different from what i expected i’d like. I’d gone from a completely jewel encrusted bodice with a tulle ball gown skirt to an A line vintage lace dress, bit of a change! But i loved it straight away…it didn’t even fit me and yet i really felt good in it. However it was around £500 over budget so I decided to go away and think about it and look at whether i could realistically afford it.
My fiance encouraged me to go for it as he said its a one off and it turned out i got quite a good bonus which completely covered the extra. So I went back in to the shop and decided this time i would try on some dresses that were similar to the style I liked to make sure it was the specific dress that i loved, not just that different style. I tried on quite a few and had a much better experience than the first time! I found quite a few that looked quite nice and even one that we thought might be the one instead. However the second I put the dress on again (Justin Alexander 8766) i got that same light, wonderful feeling. It was a completely different feeling to the others, even the one that i was properly starting to consider. So at that point I decided it was definitely the one, i even hated taking it off. So the deposit is paid and it will be arriving in December.
However, my sister took some photos while i was there and sent them to me after and looking at those, i have become really unsure about how i look. Its really making me panic that I’ve made the wrong choice. It’s odd becuse when i had it on and looked in the mirror i loved it yet looking at those photos i can’t help but wonder if it doesn’t actually look that good on me. When i was looking at myself in the dress I thought i would look really elegant and pretty but in the pictures I could ony see this dumpy old look.
I have a full on hate of my arms and since the dress is strapless, i tried on a little lace bolero with it. It itsn’t as delicate a style as i am plannin to actually choose as it had these big petals all down it so im wondering if that was what gave the dumpy edge. So if i had a more delicate style it would look nice. Or whether its just the dress in general isnt right for me and i should have chosen something else. Although I’m quite big, I have a really small waist, to the point where everyone always comments on it and I dont know whether the style iv chosen shows that or if I just look frumpy…
My mum and sister say it looks lovely and that when its fitted properly it will look perfect. However they are so lovely and supportive i think i could put a bin bag on and they’d be nice bless them! I dont really want to show it to other people as i want it to be a surprise on my wedding day but i need some honest opinions! Is it normal to have this feeling of being a bit unsure afterwards? Is it just because it’s a big decision to make and i should focus on how i felt with it on? Also, is it too much with a veil as well? Everyone, please just take a moment to let me know what you think, I will be so ridiculously greatful!!!!!