Post # 1
My two girls each have their own bedroom. They always want to sleep in the same room. They have ended up in the same room every night for at least the last four or five months. We homeschool and could make great use of one of these rooms as a homeschool room/library room. The problem is that I have mentioned the possibility to a few people and everyone thinks that if there is enough room for each child to have their own room that they should have their own room. If my girls didn’t want to sleep together all the time, I would gladly keep them in their own rooms, but as it is they are unofficially in the same room while our books and papers are piled up in random places.
People seriously look at me like I am suggesting putting them in a closet or something while their rooms sit empty, so I thought I would bring it up here to hopefully get some perspective.
Post # 3
I would keep them in different rooms. It’s only been a few months and depeneding on their age, this is likely a phase and they’ll wan their own space again. I would leave it as is if it was me. But I do understand your thinking on it and don’t find it weird. I just think you’ll find it as an issue to change back later.
Post # 4
My sister and I shared a room until puberty, then I moved into my own room.
I thought it was really important for several reasons. We figured out conflict resolution and not to involve our parents in every spat. We learned how to share space. We learned how to live and respect another person in our same living space.
These were invaluable skills when I moved off to college!
Post # 5
I say let ’em share a room until they ask for their own rooms again 🙂 It may happen again at a later age. No harm in sharing a room if they want to!
Post # 6
@BeachBride2014: Out of curiousity, what is the age difference between you and your sister? My girls are 24 months apart.
Post # 7
They will grow out of the room sharing between ages 9 and 13.
Post # 8
My cousins (2 girls) shared a room for the same reason you state, they always wanted to be together. So they too shared until just before puberty and then split up. They rarely fought through the horomonal teenage years and are now best friends in young adulthood. I think if they want to share, it could be great for them but keep it in your mind that you might need to switch your homeschool room back to a bedroom on short notice if it doesn’t work out.
Post # 9
My husband and his brother used to live in huge big house with a play room, a room each and more and they shared a room their entire childhood. It wasn’t for any other reason other than that they were close and I find it adorable.
Unless they express the desire for their own room I don’t think there is anything to worry about here (Don’t fix what’s not broken) Unless you NEED the other room for something else, just leave it be I say
Post # 10
I shared a room with my sister my entire childhood, and we always had extra rooms — a guest room, a library, etc. that could have been made into an extra bedroom. I don’t think children need their own rooms at all. Use the space for what you need it for — and the kids are sleeping together anyway!
Post # 11
@MrsFuzzyFace: I would keep them in separate rooms or at the very least, make sure that it’s easy for them to be put back into separate rooms if need be (like don’t get rid of anything). Kids change their minds all the time, and depending on their ages, this arrangement won’t last forever.
Post # 13
My younger sister (4 year difference) and I shared a room until I was 15 I think. We probably would have opted to have our own rooms a little earlier if we had the space but sharing a room was a ton of fun and made us super close. If your girls want to room together, I’d let them. When they get older, they’ll probably ask for their own rooms but for now, it’s a great time for them to bond and do everything together.
Post # 14
My sister and I are less than 11 months apart. We shared a room until I started middle school (so, about 11). It was all fun and I loved it, but once I had my own room, I really loved the idea of my own space.
Your girls will fight and be cruel to each other as they grow older. It will be nice to have a space where they can cool off without having to be forced to spend time. Even if it isn’t used now, the room will be used later down the road. And your daughters will thank you for it.
Post # 15
Mine shared a room from when they were very little until the older one was about 12. Even when they had their own rooms, one or the other ended up in the other room anyway. I think they enjoyed the late night takling and giggling together, and monsters in the night didn’t seem so terrifying. (Mine are 5 years apart.)
When houses were smaller, most siblings shared a room. Nobody NEEDS to have their own space/room in a family while they’re children, but it seems many people want it that way. I didn’t get my own until I was 16.
Why not ask them if they’d like to share?
Post # 16
@ItWasntMe: We asked and they said that they do want to share. (They wear the same size, so they also like having access to all their clothes in one closet.) My hesitation is my friends and family looking at me like I trying to stuff them in like sardines.