Post # 1
I’m invited to a friend’s bridal shower next month. The friend and her fiance have lived together for several years already; I don’t really understand registries for household items when you live together but okay, to each their own. Anyway, I was looking through the registry trying to pick something.
In addition to the tons of household items and appliances, I see she requested 10 gift cards for Best Buy @ $50 each, and the same amount in gift cards for a housewares store. Why put this on the resigtry when you already have tons of house items on the registry? Something about this just rubs me the wrong way, but maybe I am just out of touch with what’s considered rude or not? Requesting gift cards is basically like requesting cash for a bridal shower gift, which is in addition to the cash envelopes people give at the actual wedding.
So I open up the discussion here. I’m curious on other people’s input.
Post # 2
NOrmally the registry at the store automatically puts one on. I know target does, but geesh putting them on there yourself?! Yeah that would tic me off. Would have been smarter just putting the $500 tv/computer/stereo system on the registry itself, but that’s just me.
Post # 3
I don’t know if it’s tacky or not; I guess I just don’t really see the point. If someone wants to give you $50, why not take that money and go to Best Buy? Why do they need to get you a gift card to Best Buy?
Post # 4
Well otherwise nobody would know to give her anything besides the house items she already has on the registry.
She has a regular registry from the usual housewares store with the usual house items PLUS gift cards to best buy. 10 of them are requested to be exact. Each being $50.
It just rubs me the wrong way.
Post # 5
Adding “or cash” to “you are invited come to my friends house to give me a gift” is a non-issue IMO.
There is no question that the point of a bridal shower is to shower the bride with gifts… no one is attending that thing empty handed, and she couldn’t come up with enough physical items to ask people for so she started to ask for cash. *shrug* It’s questionable whether or not she should even be having a bridal shower, but I personally feel 90% of brides nowaday don’t really need one but have them anyway so she’s no worse than the norm.
I understand why people think it’s tacky for a wedding, where it’s OK to show up empty handed. I don’t feel particularly strongly about this, but at least I see where people are coming from.
Post # 6
I don’t think it’s rude. Bed Bath and Beyond asked me when we were setting up if we wanted to add a gift card option so I said yes. Doesn’t mean I expect people to buy them. But perhaps you’d feel differently about mine since my fiance and I are not living together until a couple months before the wedding and have both lived with parents so have limited household items to take with us. We will “survive” with what we do have until we get gifts, and then fill in ourselves after the wedding with what else we need. Just curious if that would change your opinion on the situation.
Post # 7
When you register, many companies offer you percentages off to “complete your registry” after your event. This is why some couples register for large ticket items. Also sometimes people chip in towards larger items as opposed to 15 toasters. The gift cards can be an option for people to chip in as well. Giving information on what to purchase is done as a curtosey, not a demand. I’m always glad to know my gift will be useful, I’d rather know what to buy rather than shop for hours and i’d rather spare the couple the annoyance of returns. As for rude as hell: scanning all over someone’s wish list and judging on them is certainly not polite. As for why people living together need to register, they’re getting married? maybe their pots suck? Why does it make a difference? Smh.
Post # 8
*sigh* it’s their registry, and they put what ever they ant. And you pick what you want to buy off that registry. Simple. If you dont like the cards then dont buy them! What is the issue exactly? They probably put them there in case people didnt find something they would like to buy… and didnt want to just bring cash to a bridal shower. *sigh*
Post # 9
I think it’s totally fine. You dont have to get her that if you dont like it, but I think it’s okay.
Post # 10
I think it’s redundant. People will know where you registered, they know they can get you a gift card there if they want. Registering for ten $50 gift cards is very tacky to me; it’s saying, “We’d like $500, please!”
Post # 11
I think this is different because they’re gift cards to another store- it’s one thing to have a BBY gift card on your BBY registry, it’s another to add Best Buy gift cards- 10 of them!- to a BBY/Macy’s etc registry. I think that’s a little tacky.
Post # 12
Thats my thought too. Not necessary tacky, just unnecessary. We didn’t put any gift cards down, but we got them.
Post # 13
- Wedding: May 2012 - Church Family Center
Not really. It’s odd for sure, but I don’t see anything wrong with it. They may have put 10 in there as a way for more people to give them gift cards. After someone purchases something, it’s usually marked as done or bought for. So this way, other people can still comfortably give gift cards. Ya know?
Post # 14
I think per etiquette rules it’s not kosher to ask for money, so gift card is kind of breaking that rule. Personally it doesn’t bother me as a guest, but I would not register for a gift card as a bride.
Post # 15
I think it depends on the couple and the situation. People are marrying later, living together… and when you do that, you accumulate more stuff!
Not everyone’s style but I think it’s OK to request a gift card just be providing a link on a wedding site at no specific amount or to use one of those sites to help pay for honeymoon excursions or something. Asking for 10 gift cards in $50 amounts is a little weird…. IMO. I probably wouldn’t put it on my registry, but I happily gave my good friend a gift card for her wedding. She and her husband already own a home and have plenty of stuff. They didnt ask for specifics but they had links to their favorite stores on their website that took you to the Gift Card page. Pick your own value for the card.
Personally, when my FH and I work on a gift registry, we will probably have a nice curated list of gifts from stores we both love, and an option to give a monetary donation to a charity that is important to both of us(where we met!). We will be moving across the country eventually and are both wary of transporting a lot of stuff!