Having "Irish twins"

posted 4 weeks ago in Babies
Post # 2
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

Is it possible to describe the timing of these babies in a manner that isn’t rooted in an ethnic slur? The term “Irish twins” was originally used as an insult against new Irish immigrants, who tended to have large families and lots of kids in a short timerame because their religious beliefs did not allow for birth control.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2019 - City, State

Adamsfamily6991 :  My fiance’s family is Irish as all getout and they use the phrase “Irish twins” all the time and are completely unoffended by it.  You’re good – we know what you mean.

I don’t have children yet, but just wanted to add that my sister and I are 15 months apart and I always liked that we were relatively the same in age rather than having a large gap.  It meant we could share more experiences and interests as we got older.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee

Adamsfamily6991 :  I come from a large Irish family as well (mom was the exception to the rule).  And, I’ve heard that phrase all of my life and no one takes offense.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee

Adamsfamily6991 :  same thing happened to friends of ours. They said at first it was overwhelming to have two babies at once but then great bc both kids were out of diapers within months of each other.

Post # 9
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I really don’t think it’s helpful to share the cons. Way too many women are too happy to share their horror stories with someone who is pregnant.

You will manage and your children will be fine. That’s all that matters.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

My mother had 4 kids within 5 years! (And then a 5th kid 5 years after that…) I was 2nd, and I absolutely loved (and still love) having so many siblings close in age to me. We really were never bored. I think it’s a great gift to give to your kids, a sibling who is so close in age. 😊

Post # 11
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Busy bee

My brother and I are Irish twins (and Irish!) at 20 months apart. I’ve heard that the first couple of years were madness, but I’m so thankful that we grew up so close. We shared a crib, friend group, and many times, a classroom.  We are close to this day.

It meant we played together, most of our lives. This was a benefit to my mom for sure. 

When it feels hard, and I’ve no doubt it sometimes will, maybe it will help to think of the gift you are giving your children. 

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2019

Throwing in another Irish Catholic here who grew up with the term Irish twins and finds no offense. 

I had an interesting conversation with my high school students today about sibling pairs with big gaps vs those who are close in age. My brother and I had a large gap of 6 years and ended up not really having a relationship until I was in my twenties because of it. Without a doubt all of my students with small age gaps said they’ve lived the closeness with their siblings even though it comes with rough points (comparisons, dating etc) but they loved having someone to grow up with. Most students with large age gaps seemed envious of the automatic friend their peers had. If they were the older of the age gap they were resentful that they often had to parent and drive around their much younger sibling. The younger ones of the gap said they always just wanted a relationship with their older sibling but found it hard to achieve.

So I have no children, but that’s the musings of 20 teenagers today 

Post # 13
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Helper bee

Hereforthecake :  Im irish (botn and raised in ireland)and I never would have assumed siblings born 20 months apart as overly close in age never mind irish twins. My mum had 3 children in the space of 36 months.15 months between me and my sister and while we considered ourselves close in age never would have though of ourselves as irish twins. I always though that was for children born a year or less apart.

My two best friends have recently had their 2nd child. One had a 14 month gap the other a 15 month gap.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

My nana had 4 kids in 4 years!! Theyre all around 15 – 18 months apart. Hard work . Irish twins are under a year apart..

Post # 15
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Helper bee

Another friend of mine has 4 under 4 too! I also know a family who had 4 children under 2. They had twins when their youngest was 13 months old! They are all the best of friends!

Actually the more I think about it, it is actually very common and normal here to have 15-18 month ages gaps.

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