(Closed) Having Kids vs. Not Having Kids

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 152
1880 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

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@ForeverBirds:  Well said.  That is my exact concern/fear.  Doing it because it’s expected and then spending the majority of your time doing for someone who may or may not appreciate it later on down the line.  That being said, I’m sure most of us do appreciate our parents (without them we wouldn’t be here debating this on the Bee Smile) but the decision to have kids should be made with deep personal consideration and without the added pressure of society.

Post # 153
351 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I know this is unfair of me, but I find it so irksome when I hear that the man in a couple is the one who is pushing for children when the woman isn’t sure! Pretty easy to be the one who’s gung-ho when it’s not you who will undergo a massively uncomfortable – and months-long! – physiological change that will entail an even longer recovery time (and sometimes, more often than we hear about, permanent effects – like incontinence, for instance!). Not to mention that we live in a society that STILL pushes the bulk of parenting work onto women… I do get that many guys desperately want to be fathers, but it still rubs me the wrong way when I hear a guy trying to persuade a woman to change her mind.

So long as the couple is on the same page, of course, I’m down with it!


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