- 6 years ago
- Wedding: October 2013
I’m putting together the guest list for my shower for my Maid/Matron of Honor and am wondering whether I should add a few of my friends. Here’s the dilemma — they’re guys. They happen to be gay, but that makes me feel odd using that as a justification to invite them to a wedding shower…
My “man of honor” (I have both a maid and a man of honor) is not local and frankly doesn’t want to come so it’s not him I’m worried about. One of my close gay male friends however is recently engaged himself and I could see feeling very slighted if I don’t invite him and his partner to the shower (they are local). The rest of that group of friends (save one other gay couple) will be invited. I’m struggling whether to add him — if I do I’d feel pressured to make it a coed shower (FI would not want that) so everyone could bring their partners and if I fall back on it’s a “girls and gays” shower (cringe) I’d then feel obligated to also invite my other local gay male friends.
I’m also concerned that we will have some of our older guests there who may not feel that comfortable with a man, let alone a gay man there (double cringe).
I’m torn. I really don’t want to offend my friend and he will not take kindly to a “girls only” label…