(Closed) Having my dress made by a seamstress/my aunt for free?

posted 5 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
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850 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I think the best option is to kindly and politely tell her that while you REALLY appreciate her offer, you are going to have it made my a seamstress due to the very complicated design you want. I sew a bit, and while I certainly have never sewn a wedding dress, I can imagine boning is REALLY difficult to do properly unless you are very familiar with it. I think what you want is in a totally different category than a 90’s satin A line wedding gown, and I agree that with something as important and emotionally loaded as a wedding dress, it’s best to go to a professional.

Post # 4
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3371 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@Rachael1287:  Looking at the dresses you have tried on so far, I would imagine it’s really difficult to make those kinds of very structured wedding gowns and get the boning right. It would be different if you wanted a simple sheath dress. Also, I can’t see her being able to do the kind of beading and decoration on those dresses.

Maybe put the emphasis on the complexity of the type of dress you want – especially with the beading, etc – as not to sound like you’re doubting your ability. Sewing a dress and beading/embroidery/embellishment are two totally different things…

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I’d recommend that you thank her but say that you don’t want her to have that stressful responsibility.  However, say that you would like her to make her bridesmaids’ dresses and buy her a lovely gift for doing so.

Post # 6
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105 posts
Blushing bee

A dress like you want is very difficult to make and the beading makes it very VERY timeconsuming. I wouldn’t want a family member to make this for me, not because I don’t trust her professionalism but because it would be to much to ask.

Also, I don’t know what your budget is but with that kind of beading I think having your dress made by a professional seamstress will be rather expensive.

So…maybe get a quote from a seamstress before rejecting your aunt ;-).

 

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

That’s so sweet of her .  You’re lucky to have talented people keen to be involved in your big day! Smile  My bridesmaids’ dresses need altering and Future Mother-In-Law has suggested her mum (who I know to be a very talented seamstress) but I’m not sure whether or not to ask her because I think they may well be difficult to alter and I don’t want her to feel obliged.

Post # 10
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3371 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@Rachael1287:  It depends on how much cheaper the dressmakers are quoting to make your dress for…if the difference is substantial, I would start wondering about whether you’d be compromising on quality, fabric, finish etc. I would want to look at some of their previous work, especially for similar styles. Have you contacted Jasmine’s Bridal Shop? Heaps of bees have ordered from them and the quality of their beading/embellishment seems pretty good for the price. 

 

Post # 11
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311 posts
Helper bee

I’m also having my aunt make my dress, but mine is much simpler than what you’re looking for. If she was a professional seamtress, then I assume she knows how to bone a dress properly. The beading, however, would be very time consuming for one person to do so it might be a good idea to contact a couple professionals and get quotes, and also tell your aunt what you’re looking for. She may not realize how in depth you’re planning this dress to be. I’m a little wary myself only because I’ve never seen her make a wedding dress, though she’s made dozens of dresses in general. She knows exactly what i’m looking for, and I think that’s what you need to do for your aunt as well. If you find a seamtress with a reasonable price, then politely tell her that you think it’s too much work and that you don’t want to do that to her.

Post # 12
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86 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Hi Rachael1287,

You look stunning in those two gowns!! The main reason as you noticed is a well structured corset underneath. If you want somebody to sew something similar, they really have to have experience in wedding gowns and corsets. The other option would be wearing a corset underneath and have a gown less structured, which doesn’t guarantee the perfect fit though. Some important things to consider are the fabrics. I would go shopping and see what laces or beaded fabrics available and what their width is. You might not get the same effect of train as in the first dress, because fabric has to be pieced to make the long full train. The dress will have seams, only experienced seamstress can make them almost invisible. It’s s lot of work, because every motif has to be cut by hand and stitched. It requires yards of fabric because of application of scalloped edge. On the ready to wear gowns the fabric is woven in circle so it could be seamless. The second dress could be made if you find similar fabric. However having someone beaded it by hand is a very expensive and long process. If you planning to save money, ordering the gown is not always the best way, because it requires a lot of work, multiple layers and yardage of fabrics. These are some things to consider. 

I hope this long post will help you:). I’m a fashion designer and the bride. I thought of making my own gown. However the one I found in the store cannot be duplicated. There’s no similar fabric with handbeading available, the gown has different beaded patterns in different areas.

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