- 6 years ago
- Wedding: October 2010
Hyperventilate: You are incorrect. A wedding is the act of two people getting married. Poufy dresses and parties have nothing to do with it. When you get married – be it in a cathedral with dress, flowers and blow out reception afterwards, or at the courthouse in jeans followed by going home and watching Netflicks – that’s your wedding.
Heres the thing – if a couple wants a do-over, fine but it simply is not a wedding when you are already married.
Here’s the other thing – sure, you can do whatever you want if it makes you happy but it’s a little much to expect your family and friends to play pretend with you. When you are already married, living together and are an established household for several years, it’s a bit much to ask everyone to play along and act and react the same way they would to a couple actually getting married and starting their lives together.
I’m not saying people won’t want to come or be happy to celebrate with you but don’t presume upon them too much unless you want a lot of eye-rolling going on. Keep it simple, low key and call it what it is – a vow renewal – and don’t pull any funny stuff like trying to have showers, bachelorettes or registering.