- 9 years ago
- Wedding: June 2012
If you were a virgin until a week ago, I wouldn’t worry too much that there is something biologically wrong with you that can’t be worked with in regards to getting some pleasure from having sex. All the bees here are right about foreplay – your body isn’t used to the cues yet and will in time that A leads to B which leads to C…so you’re going to have to really be creative and passionate and relax as much as possible to avoid being too tense down there. Also, it IS going to hurt the first couple of times, if your hymen hasn’t been completely broken yet and because you’re just tight (the vagina will stretch and then retract over time, but it’s like muscle memory and yours hasn’t learned this yet!). I would also suggest trying to work with positions that favor the penis penetrating you as much as possible without unnecessarily hurting either one of you. For instance, riding him on top with him laying flat on his back will hurt you at first but will get in deep and loosen you up in no time but being on top of him with both of you somewhat sitting and you wrapped around him will tilt your vagina and might hurt both of you in the process. Sometimes even the missionary position doesn’t allow for a completely straight canal for him to penetrate and that will only hinder the process.
It’s somewhat scary when it seems like it won’t go in, but lube and patience and actually making sure it goes in will make both of you very happy in no time 🙂