Post # 1
so i bought my dress back in february from david’s bridal (style # 9V9409) and now i’m thinking i might have jumped the gun… i feel really foolish because usually i am one to go to every store in the tri-state area to find the perfect product for the perfect price (ok, that’s a little bit of an exaggeration, but you get the idea). but for some reason when i went to go look for a wedding dress i felt like db was my only option because i really don’t have the money to spend thousands of dollars (or even hundreds of dollars, really) on a dress. i know i’ve read that other brides have made that same mistake, thinking that db is the only place you can get wedding dresses for a reasonable price. i’ve been reading, though, this might not be the case, and it leaves me wondering, “is MY dress still out there somewhere, waiting for me to find it?” don’t get me wrong, the db dress is pretty, but i just don’t feel like it’s THE dress. i only tried on about 5 dresses that day, and out of all the dresses i tried on, this one was definitely the most comfortable (which, for me, is a big plus), but it was also the one that was the furthest away from what i thought i wanted. maybe the idea of what i thought i wanted changed, but i still don’t feel like i made the right choice, and i’ve been agonizing over it on and off for about a month now. maybe i did make the right choice, though, and i just need to get out and see some more dresses in my price range to see that i made the right choice. of course, if i do find something else, i don’t know what i would do because db doesn’t offer refunds, returns, exhanges, etc (which is kinda crazy anyways) and i really can’t afford to just buy another dress. i know i could probably sell the first dress, but i don’t know…
am i just crazy? or has this happened to anyone else? maybe it’s just pms coming out in a rare form. lol. or maybe there is something to this. anyone have any suggestions?
Post # 3
I think you need to show us a picture 🙂
I only tried on 5 dresses and only went to one shop. The dress I chose was not on my list of gowns. It was one that the sales lady; actually the owner suggested I try on. I fell in love with it, but I did and have wondered if it was “the dress”. I just needed to stop actively looking for other gowns and remember what I looked like and felt like in my gown. I still see gowns and wonder, what if I chose too soon, but I know deep in my heart that I chose right. I am sure you did too 🙂
Post # 4
Noritake22’s respond coulda been mine! You are definitely not the only one with second thoughts about your dress 🙂
Post # 5
noritake22, that is exactly what happened to me! I tried on a few dresses, and none of them Wowed me. Then I went to a generic, mainstream store and after trying on several of what I thought I wanted, the manager came with a dress that had never even entered my mind. I was shocked when she brought it for me to try on. I thought, what on Earth is this woman doing?! So I tried it on, to be polite, came out with a fake smile and went to the mirror. When I saw it, that was it. It was the one.. But since then,(as we had not set a date or ordered it) I kept my eyes open, and still never found anything that was stunning. I have now ordered it, as of last month, and I feel fairly confident.. though I do still see the styles that I was originally looking at and I sorta wonder… But I’m sure once I put it on, I’ll remember why I chose it.
Post # 6
I agree, show us a picture!!!
Hmmm. Maybe you can go back and try the dress on again. Sometimes that’s all it takes, kind of a reconfirmation with yourself.If it’s still not right, you can always keep looking in your price range in the meantime and sell the other dress if necessarry.Keep your eyes open, try out new styles, and don’t limit your thinking at “bridal gown.” I’ve seen white bridesmaid or prom dresses that were absolutely stunning. If you don’t find the dress that takes your breath away, then you still have a perfectly good dress to wear.
I will admit, I knew my dress the second I saw it. We were shopping for the MOB dress when I turned a corner and there it was. I tried it on and another one besides that, and bought the first that night. Yes, I only ever tried on two dresses. THAT bothered me later. I really hadn’t looked around! I went back to look and the dress again later and you know…it’s still the same feeling. I know it’s the one. I think you will too when you find it. Good luck!
Post # 7
You could always think that there’s some other, better dress out there… just like you could always think there’s some other, better man out there for you! But eventually we fall in love and realise we have to appreciate what we’ve got. If you love your dress, stick with it and you’ll be happy and beautiful on your wedding day. If not, it’s probably best to move on if you’ve got the time and budget.
Post # 8
For what I’ve seen on various board, it’s normal to have “what ifs”.
I think you should stop thinking about it and start connecting with your FEELINGS about the gown… if your feelings say “it’s it” keep it, if your feelings say “Hmmm maybe” sell it and get another one.
Post # 9
Go look around, if you find one that is more of what you want or the one and you can afford it sell the first and get the one that you do want.
I had originally planned on making my dress, and have a dress that I did make but our colors changed hanging in a closet. Found a dress on db online and fell in love. I looked at all the other shops and didn’t find anything that screamed me except that one. I’ve waited an extra 2 months before purchasing so I didn’t have have 2nd thoughts about it.
Post # 10
Yes, YES they do! I bought a DB dress in New Hampshire with my mom and 4 months later exchanged it (yesterday in fact) for a new dress that I LOVE! Talk to them in the store and see if they would be willing to exchange. Seriously. It’s worth asking!
Post # 11
I’ve been having the same thoughts on my dress! It was such a good deal, and the last one they had, that I figured I couldn’t let it pass up. Now I wish I had tried on more dresses… I really wanted something with lace, and ended up with brocade. I pick it up on Friday, so we’ll see how it looks now that I can see it again…
Post # 12
If you feel really bad about your dress and you do not see yourself on your wedding day happy in it then I would keep looking. I have had a little bit of dress regret when I look at other dresses but then I look at a picture of mine and it all goes away. A little dress regret is normal but if it is dimming the light on your wedding dreams maybe its time to look into something else.
Post # 13
thanks girls! i’m really thinking i might just go try on a few more dresses to ease my mind. if i find something else that i absolutely fall in love with then i will try to work out a way to get it. if i don’t find anything else, then i know the dress i got was meant to be for me. i’m going back to db next week for 3 of my BMs to try on dresses, so maybe while i’m there i will try on a few, that way i can atleast try to talk them into an exchange if i find something. i might even try one of my local bridal salons just to say i tried.
oh, and here are a few pictures 🙂
it’s funny, though, because when i look at these pictures i think i do kind of like it, but at the same time i’m still not quite sure it’s THE one. *sigh* if i just let it go, i’m sure i would be completely satisfied with it… i guess i just need to ease my mind by trying on a few more to make it official 🙂
Post # 14
I think that dress is very pretty and it looks fabulous on you.
Post # 15
I think it looks amazing on you. I think it could def. be the one!! It looks like it suits you very well. I say make your mind up yes or no. If you don’t you’ll agaonize over it until the wedding.
I didn’t have the crying/ah ha/it moment when I found my dress – it doesnt matter. I love my dress and as long as your happy and comfortable, didn’t break the bank – that is the one.
Post # 16
I really like your dress! keep it!