- 5 years ago
- Wedding: August 2013
The short of the long is that I [F/24] have moved to the US on a fiancé Visa to be with my fiancé [M/23], and we have to get married within 90 days of me moving into the country. We have been engaged for about a year now!
Until recently, this wasn’t an issue with me, however I am now having doubts about being ready for all of this; getting married, moving countries, etc. I am not allowed to work for about four months after we get married, which makes financials very difficult, and school here costs a fortune compared to where I’m from.
I can’t help but feel like I may have jumped the boat too soon and part of me wants to go back home for a while longer, work some more, and possibly postpone the wedding [1. Until we are financially comfortable, 2. I’m not sure I’m ready.]. Another problem with this, is that moving back home would null my Visa, and potentially ruin chances of getting another one for a while! Should I suck it up, get married on paper, and start building my life here? OR leave and risk it?
My other problem is I am very much a family girl. I find it very difficult to be away from my family for long periods of time. I dont’ know if this is something I’ll ever grow out of. Fiance does not want to live in my hometown, but I’m not sure I’ll be able to live in his for an extended period of time.
Fiance lives at home, with his parents. I am currently living there with him, as neither of us have steady income . I realize that it’s going to take a while to get atable, no matter what we do, but I feel as if I have more opportunity to do so slightly quicker back home. Note: Fiance is willing to try long distance, but doesn’t seem t keen or hopeful about it [not that I expect him to be thrilled, just mostly hopeful and like it wouldn’t be the end of the world!].
Needless to say, there is a lot to be thought of, but I really don’t know where to start or what to think!