(Closed) Having second thoughts and I just want to cry

posted 11 years ago in Emotional
Post # 32
2 posts
  • Wedding: April 2000

roxy821, we have all flown off the handle at times, its understandable. I’m glad you wrote back, I felt badly after writing it, thought maybe I was too harsh. I really hope things work out with your situation. You are both tired, not to mention stressed. Maybe a nice glass of wine for both of you and a comfy couch will help when you talk to him tonight. 🙂

Post # 34
3761 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I think Dr.LauraFan brings up some good points that we all should try to remember.  Using harsh words etc when fighting really doesn’t get us anywhere.

Post # 36
7768 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

I am proud of you for being honest about this.  If HE wanted, and pressured you to have the puppy- then he is taking advantage of you.  The thing is @Dr.LauraFan- @roxy IS thinking about her huge commitment- right?  That’s why you are writing this?  Anyway @roxy, I think you have very valid concerns.  And, what I am trying to say- is that it takes courage and honesty to admit your feelings and then do something about your situation, so -I am glad you are being honest.  It definitely sounds like you need to have a heart-to-heart.  MAYBE give him a chance to show small improvements- baby steps.  But, if things still aren’t right for you, there is nothing wrong with admiting it and dealing with it, so that you can get what you need out of your relationship and your life- deal with it NOW, so that it doesn’t bother you and build up over time.  Hugs to you, @roxy.

Post # 37
2373 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

[email protected] the text message/goodbye this morning. I’m lucky my husband is a cat person. 🙂

Post # 40
79 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

roxy, how many times a night are having to get up with your little pup? Are you using a crate with her? Usually, the rule is that pups can go their age in months plus one hour between potty breaks (so a 4 month old could go for 5 hours), but most pups can go for a bit longer overnight when they’re sleeping. So, you shouldn’t need to get up with her more than once a night. If your furbaby is peeing more often, it might be an indication of a urinary tract infection (your vet can test her for this). She could also just be one of those puppies who likes to fill up on water; you can try taking away the water bowl a couple of hours before bedtime and see if that helps (don’t do this unless you’re sure she doesn’t have a UTI).

PP’s addressed the relationship stuff better than I ever could, so I thought I’d try to help with the puppy stuff. Good for you for adopting a dog who needs you and making a commitment to taking care of her!

Post # 42
2066 posts
Buzzing bee

Glad things are better now. 

Post # 43
473 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I’m totally coming in late on this thread, but are you crate training the puppy? We got a golden retriever in March, and I couldn’t imagine raising her without a crate right now. She’s never had a bladder accident in it; it keeps her contained, safe, and is a good time out for her when she (or I) am about to lose it.

Glad to hear he’s on board!

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