Post # 1
Hi everyone! I’m new here and made an account because I’m having serious second thoughts on my wedding dress…
It’s only been a month since I’ve been engaged and our wedding is next September. My mom, sister (who is also my MOH) and I went on an impulse shopping trip at my local bridal shop, just to start getting ideas on what I liked and disliked in a dress. I had no intentions on choosing THE dress today. I originally had wanted to do a fit and flare as opposed to a poofy dress since I am 5’2” and was afraid a poofy dress would swallow me up since I am so short.
After trying on 8 dresses, I tried on a white Casablanca 2046 and LOVED it. When the sales associate put the veil on me, we all began to tear up. I even tried on dresses after this one, and they just didn’t compare.
I am unsure about the belt because I feel like it cuts off my body and makes me look even shorter compared to without the belt, when looking at a frontal view. But now that I am looking at pictures hours later, I’m really starting to second guess my decision overall… I honestly feel like the dress is swallowing up my body despite everyone at the store telling me it doesn’t when I kept asking. I mean, this dress is also 2 sizes bigger and I will be needing to have alterations done. We could have ordered a smaller size to work with, but this dress was on a really good sale so we were just going to go with the alteration route. So this could be another reason why it looks huge on me, but I’m still thinking maybe I should have done a more fitted dress due to my shortness. We only put a small deposit to hold it on layaway so there IS the option of choosing a different dress. But honestly, I’m really starting to regret my decision now because I feel like it’s too soon to choose THE dress and maybe I needed more time to shop around.
Thank you in advance to anyone who made it through the essay I just wrote above! I am just feeling down right now as I’m scrolling through pictures in the middle of the night and I just need advice from fellow brides and brides-to-be.
Post # 2
- Wedding: September 2017 - Poppy Ridge Golf Course
kjflores : It looks really nice on you! But I’m also 5’2 and understand what you mean. Majority of the dresses I tried on felt super bulky, weighed me down and were ridiculously long. In my eyes I looked like a little girl playing dress up. :p If the only reason you’re having second thoughts is bc of how you think it looks then I assure you it looks nice on your frame. But if you’re not comfortable in it or think a different style would suit you better thats a separate issue.
Post # 3
kjflores : it’s definitely not swallowing you up and I think the belt gives a lovely definition to your waist. I did experience dress regret and ended up changing my dress so think carefully about what you want to look like on your day – selling a dress was not easy! I found that looking back at pictures wasn’t as good because it didn’t reflect how good the dress looked. You might want to go back to the store and try it on again for reassurance.
Post # 4
I agree with Giblets about looking back at pictures. I loved my wedding dress and felt amazing in it, but looking back at photos from the dress shop, it doesn’t look that great. (Actual wedding photos much much better and flattering) If you can go and try it on again I would before you make a decision. But I don’t think it’s swallowing you either.
Post # 5
At the moment the dress is 2 sizes too big and it’s way too long, so there is excess fabric going on (although even so it doesn’t look bad!). Once you have it hemmed and altered to fit you like a glove I believe all your worries will go away. It is fitted through the bodice and hips so it will show your figure and won’t swallow you. If you’re really freaking out I think you should go try it on again. Remember, at the time you teared up and no other dress could compare, so it must have looked pretty great! I am resisting looking at the picture I have of me in my dress at the shop because I know it looked beautiful in person but the photo on my phone makes it look pretty average (my Bridesmaid or Best Man apparently sucks at taking photos lol and my phone camera isn’t the best, so it’s a deadly combo).
Post # 6
Love the dress, but not with the belt. It does cut you in half a bit. Keep it simple would be my vote! 🙂
Post # 7
kjflores : I think the dress is beautiful on you! I do like it with the belt, although it also looks nice without it. It’s too big so I think that’s what is throwing your judgment off. The style itself is lovely and it does not look like it’s wearing you vs you wearing the dress.
For peace of mind go and try on some other dresses otherwise you’ll always wonder.
Post # 8
kjflores : I’m also 5’2″ – the key to having a dress that doesn’t swallow you up is having one that is made for a petite or cut down properly and that means more than just hemming.
it’s shoulder to neckline, bodice length, and other fit issues that matter for petites. I also wouldn’t stand on a riser, stand on the floor with the shoe height you plan on wearing.
Petites can wear ball gowns or mermaids or any other style so long as they fit properly.
I wouldn’t keep this dress if you can return it. It’s already too big, the alterations will eat up your savings, and as it’s already too big it will never fit you as a petite in the important ways.
you have a great figure!
Post # 9
I’m under 4′ 11″ so I’m jealous of your towering 5′ 2″ 🙂
The dress isn’t my style but the cut is flattering on you. If you love the dress and that’s the dress you want my advice would be not not have them work with that specific dress but to have them order it in your size with hollow to the hem measurements. Right now I’m siding with a belt but I’d recommend that if you get it in your size with Hope This Helps than you make that belt decision after the dress comes in.
Post # 10
I love it!!!!! It will look so different once it’s fitted in your size. The dress is lovely. I prefer it without the belt, too. But don’t fret, remember how it made you feel and wait for YOUR dress!
Post # 11
I love it! I’m a Casablanca bride as well and I think I’m wearing a belt with mine. I personally don’t think it cuts you off, but it’s all up to personal preference. I regretted my dress all the way up until I got it. So give it some time, and remember that you chose this dress for a reason! 🙂
Post # 12
My first thought after seeing the pics (before reading what you wrote) is that I LOVE the dress, and then when I scrolled to the pic with the belt I was like whyyyy. I don’t think the belt is good with this dress…it’s too much. Your figure looks lovely in the dress as is, the sash just creates business iMO. But I tend to feel that way about a lot of wedding dress sashes so I may be biased.
I am about the same size as you and know what you mean about yoru fear of being “swallowed” by the dress, but I don’t think this dress is swallowing you at all. It realy looks lovely…just on its own.
But you should keep looking if you’re having doubts!
Post # 13
The shape suits you nicely! I can understand your concerns, I’m 5’3″ and I know how the dresses can feel like too much, but with the right alterations this can be addressed. I just had my fitting, and I was so impressed at how fitted they get your dress! From the length and the fit, it will feel like second skin in a great way – just be sure to find an experienced bridal alternation place. They can also help remove excess fabric and make alternations that you may not know about, so worth chatting with one and get some advice – perhaps show a picture and see what they say. But if you are regretting the style of the dress and how you imagine yourself, you may want to go back and try more on. It’s such a big decision, but remember you spend so much time away from your dress, it’s common to second guess it. The dress does suit you well and I think with alterations you will find it was made for you.
Post # 14
I think you look stunning on the first pic, but i wouldn´t go with the belt, it´s too much and it makes you shorter. I would definitely go with the dress, but only without the belt. If it´s tucked in and fits you, you will look so beautiful and be the envy if every woman around you at your wedding 🙂
Post # 15
I think you should go out & try on more dresses. It will either re-inforce your choice to keep this dress or help you make up your mind to buy another one.
Also, since you feel you’re too short in it, i vote for no-belt & heels ( if you like wearing them)
I do think the dress is quite lovely & also flatterring on you. Congratulations