Post # 1
I found my dream dress back in January. It was the first dress I ever tried on and I didn’t want to take it off. I considered other dresses, but none of them made me feel the way my dress made me feel, so decided that was the one. Unfortuantely, the shop where I purchased the dress will not allow refunds, store credit, or exchanges, so I would either have to keep this dress or eat the deposit and find another dress, which would SUCK. I love the dress, but then I see other dresses and think maybe I didn’t make the right choice. The dress I bought is a sample dress, so I got a tremendous deal on it, but I’ve lost 50 pounds since I found the dress and I don’t know how it will look on me more fitted, which is troubling me. I have talked to two seamstresses and the shop owner and all have assured me they can take the dress in. I guess I just have cold feet. What do you all think of the dress? It looks better in person. The bodice is covered in beads and crystals, with champagne organza ribbon on the bodice and hem of the skirt. The beading is also repeated on the hem. The dress has a cathedral train.
I suppose my other issue is since I’ve lost nearly 80 pounds, I want my dress to show that off. I wasn’t thinking when I decided to go with a ball gown style. I’m afraid my F cups will make me look ridiculous in that dress once it’s altered appropriately. I want to look svelte. I know I should’ve gone with an A-line, but I fell in love with this dress and bought it on an impulse. So, what say you bees? Is it a keeper? I’d love to hear your input.
Post # 3
First of all, congrats on your weight loss! Amazing! Second, your dress is very beautiful but if you don’t feel sexy and happy in it, it doesn’t matter how beautiful the dress is. If you think you can sell it privately, go for it. And I think you might have an easier time selling it than you think. When I was first looking for a wedding gown, I was having trouble finding plus size gowns on ebay, oncewed, etc. There just aren’t that many out there.
Otherwise, if you truly love the gown, talk to whoever is going to do your alterations. They may be able to customize it a little bit for you. Good luck with whatever you choose!
Post # 4
That dress will look beautiful, especially taken in to show your shape. I’ve also lost weight and am still wearing a fuller dress, but the bodice shows off my curves and my weight loss (and have yet to get it altered for my wedding, which is still a year away)!! Congrats on losing the weight!! Your dress is AMAZING and you are going to make a BEAUTIFUL bride!!! 🙂
Post # 5
@beachwedding- Congratulations on the weight loss! What an accomplishment!
With the amazing work that you’ve done, I kind of feel like you should treat yourself to a dress that you feel amazing in. How about trying on some other dresses to see if there is a style that perhaps calls to you more.
I think the dress you have is just fine and will look good, but any time things are altered more than two sizes, they start to lose some of their structural integrity.
Go indulge yourself, try on some different dresses and see if you can find something in your price range that you love! You can always re-sell this dress.
Post # 6
I’d say get a new dress simply b/c it looks like the dress is wearing you and it does not show off your weight loss. You worked realllllly hard to lose that weight and should show off your new curves w/ a dress more flattering to your figure!
Post # 7
Congrats on your awesome weight loss! And yes, your dress is gorgeous. My concern echos doctorgirl in that altering a dress that much might make the dress lose some of its "oomph" factor and change it far too much.
If it were me, I’d resell the dress.
I’m into wearing whatever makes you FEEL beautiful on your day, but with your new glam curves and the thought you might be a beach bride, I think possibly another dress might make you look even more beautiful! I think this dress is a bit too ball gown-esque for the beach.
Post # 8
I think that alterations cost quite a bit. If you can sell it, I would and use that amount you get from the dress you sell towards your new dress.
Post # 9
Congrates. I meet you at the Bridal store. The dress looks GEORGOUS! How did you lose that much weight. Iam still struggling. Help me with the weight loss. You look nice! LaShonda
Post # 10
I agree with doctorgirl. You should try on some other dresses for fun and see if anything else sparks your interest. The dress you have is very pretty, you probably won’t have any trouble re-selling if you find something else that you love!
Post # 11
Thanks to all of you who responded. I had a tough decision on my hands, but due to some constraints at the bridal shop, I was forced to make that decision quickly. I’ve been there every day this week on my lunch break, searching for another dress. I admired quite a few in my price range and was trying to decide which I liked best. The shop owner, who was NOT happy with my decision to order a new dress, told the staff that I had to order my dress by today. I was informed of this yesterday. Furthermore, only two companies could deliver my dress in time for the wedding and to allow enough time for alterations–one of those was a company that soley designs modesty dresses…suffice it to say, that is not the look I am going for.
The staff had me try my dress on again yesterday for my sister. As soon as I put it on, I fell in love with it all over again. The dress is larger than it was the last time I tried it on, which was about 2 months ago. I pulled the dress on over my head and it immediately fell to the floor because it’s so big. The only thing holding the dress upright was the crinoline. The seamstress drove over to the shop to see if the dress could be spared. None of the seamstresses had actually seen the dress on me…the owner had only told them the dress needed to be taken in 4 inches, so they said they could do it, no problem. The seamstress actually laughed when she saw how big the dress was, but she said she could fix it. She told me she would have to cut the back out of the dress and sew in a corset back, but that structurally, the dress would be sound and it would be fabulous. So, that is the route I am taking. I am glad to have this ordeal over with. The seamstress unzipped the bodice and pulled it taut, and like some of you suggested, it displayed my figure nicely. I know I will love the dress more after the alterations are complete…and the best news is that bodice alterations are only $35!
Post # 12
Wow, what a deal! Congrats-sounds like you found a good solution! 🙂
Post # 13
So which dress did you end up choosing out of curiosity?
Post # 14
hhcheung2000, I am keeping my original dress. The seamstress talked me into it. And since my options were limited due to time constraints, it was the best thing to do–if not for the financial aspect, definitely for my mental health.
Post # 15
Only $35 for alterations?!?!?! I paid $25 just to have cups sewn into mine–I want your seamstress!
When I read your post, what came through is that you LOVE your dress already, so yay for keeping it. I offer just one suggestion, to address a specific concern of yours (boob size)—I think sweetheart necklines are more flattering on us more-endowed women (on me, straight cut strapless tends to give me a uni-boob look). Dunno if it’s the same with you, but you may consider having the seamstress pin a sweetheart neckline and see if that looks better to you!
Congrats! Have a lovely wedding–sounds like it’s close!